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Stuck in a rut....no idea how to get myself out

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Basher7089 · 04/11/2023 15:43

Hi all.

I don't usually post, but I am in desperate need of some advice.

A bit about me. I am 37, still live at home as cannot afford to move out, single and had absolutely no luck with online dating, I work evening shifts in a supermarket stacking shelves, and I suffer with social anxiety.

I've been feeling so fed up and stuck recently. I know I need to move my life forward, but have no idea how.

I enjoy my job and have worked there for seven years now. It's probably the best job I've ever had - I was a serial job hopper before that. However, the pay isn't great and the hours are very anti social.
Previous jobs have included admin, reception work, call centre and cafe assistant, and I've hated absolutely all of them, and struggled due to my anxiety. I have no desire to go back to any of these types of jobs, but I know looking for a new job is probably something that needs to happen.

I've been on and off online dating for years now. Just today deleted my accounts as I'm sick of it. Been on quite a few dates that have never gone anywhere. Don't know how else I would go about potentially meeting anyone, as no one where I work.

I don't really have any hobbies. I've tried joining a gym, and going to yoga classes, but I don't tend to stick to it as I get bored. Again, my working hours make attending classes or groups awkward.

I have dropped out of uni twice 😳. Both bricks and mortar and Open Uni. So probably further education is out of the question as I doubt I'd get further funding.

So....that's where I'm at! I know I sound like an absolute loser, and am embarrassed to post this, but I don't know what else to do. I'm finding it harder and harder to get through the days, and I'm already on anti depressants. Please be nice 🙏🥹

OP posts:
JamSandle · 04/11/2023 15:45

You're not a loser. 🌸
I'm holding my place so I can come back later.

Basher7089 · 05/11/2023 16:01

Thank you 💕

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