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Anxiety and being worse in the mornings

40 replies

Kielyflower · 30/10/2023 05:48

Morning MNetters. Long time poster but name changed.

Just need to not feel alone when feeling so anxious early in the morning.

Anyone want to hand hold? And share tips?

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cultureplanet · 30/10/2023 06:14

Make yourself a coffee, unload the dishwasher, write a list of things you need to do today

clpsmum · 30/10/2023 06:16

Can you do some mindfulness or deep breathing? I am here if you need to chat x

BluebellsForest · 30/10/2023 06:17

Can absolutely relate, and hand hold. I'd got for strong tea not coffee. Tea naturally has l-theonine in which is calming. I realised why I need so much tea.

Flowers
MarzipanKnees · 30/10/2023 06:19

I hear you and empathise. I found that having a ritual for my mornings helps. Otherwise I just wake up, feeling scared and hopeless.

it’s nothing huge. A cup of coffee by the window, watching the world come alive. Listening to a soothing podcast. Writing any fears down in a notebook (it helps me look back on these and realise they never come true.)

This is my favourite thing to listen to. Morning anxiety is a real and horrible thing https://open.spotify.com/show/29dD9vsI4iUS2h3nmgmmpm?si=0Ae5h9qTQTOFJryyrtV1Mg

Spotify

https://open.spotify.com/show/29dD9vsI4iUS2h3nmgmmpm?si=0Ae5h9qTQTOFJryyrtV1Mg

MarzipanKnees · 30/10/2023 06:20

Sorry, that didn’t preview. It’s called The Anxious Morning, by Drew Linsalata

Kielyflower · 30/10/2023 06:29

Oh thank you all, the kindness of strangers is so special and has made me cry. I am so grateful.

I would like to be able to get up and make coffee, do jobs etc but I don’t want to wake husband and kids. Though DH is up now.

Thank you for the podcast recommendation, I’m going to buy myself some headphones today. It’s ridiculous I don’t have any really.

Thank you again and I would like to return the kindness to anyone else who needs it x

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cultureplanet · 30/10/2023 06:33

So if dh is up

then you get up now whilst children are asleep

head to kitchen, hot drink, radio and a quiet potter

AceofPentacles · 30/10/2023 06:36

I can recommend an app called insight timer, most of it is free there are meditations, talks and other useful things to listen to while stressed or anxious. I found a ten minute 'body scan' session on there which is very grounding and like guided mindfulness.

WhatFreshHell1 · 30/10/2023 07:11

Sending sympathy. It’s truly awful. It’s been happening to me lately so have done some research and found out the stress hormone, cortisol, naturally increases in the early hours. Follow the great advice above, maybe try the Rescue Remedy tongue drops as well. Hope DH can support you through this.

HughCanoe · 30/10/2023 07:25

I've had this. I cut out caffeine and alcohol and exercised more and it gradually went.

DemelzaandRoss · 30/10/2023 11:13

Totally empathise with you.
Listen to the Calm app. Has the Daily Calm with Tamara Leverett. Also other items, SOS anxiety tips etc.
Hope this helps.

Lovewine1975 · 30/10/2023 13:01

I get morning anxiety most mornings, its horrendous and totally know what you are going through, I normally feel better by lunchtime. I am going through peri-menopause and its one of the main symptoms, everything I worry about is intensified by so much, just horrible.

pollywols · 30/10/2023 13:14

Caffeine was one of the primary anxiety triggers for me, so I had to cut it out completely. Couldn't even have decaf (there's still some in it, enough to make my anxiety worse). Hope this helps, take care.

Kielyflower · 30/10/2023 14:46

Thank you everyone for the kind words and sorry to hear others suffer this affliction. It really is horrible.

I am still feeling anxious but from past experience I do usually feel better in the evenings. I am also hoping to sleep better tonight. And will try the suggestions when I need to.

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Kielyflower · 30/10/2023 14:47

@Lovewine1975 if your anxiety is ongoing I was wondering if you’ve been to the doctors?

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Lovewine1975 · 30/10/2023 15:16

@Kielyflower Never really had it until started the peri menopause, I have been on HRT patches for a year and it helped loads, but recently its started coming back along with some other symptoms so have increased my HRT to see if that helps, hope it does

SuitYouSir · 30/10/2023 15:20

I get this on days I’m in work. Often I end up throwing up.

I find things that help are doing something like a crossword to occupy my mind or listening to positive, uplifting songs.

ManchesterLu · 30/10/2023 15:21

I used to keep some biscuits next to my bed, with a glass of water. A digestive biscuit and a full glass of water as soon as you wake up will get your blood sugar moving in the right direction. So I'd have those and go for a shower, and by the time I'd got out of the shower I was in a much better state of mind to start my day - I'd then go and make a healthy breakfast.

Imreginafelangee · 30/10/2023 15:25

I get anxiety at night so I understand how you feel. (I'm on medication). Anxiety really sucks doesn't it , mine was caused by bad neighbours and I've ended up like this even years later.

My tips would be to try and find something that calms your mind , more so a distraction, like music , a walk , exercise anything that can you can refocus on . Also might be worth a chat with GP .

Vga1984 · 30/10/2023 16:32

Mornings can be tough with anxiety, but you're not alone. I've found taking deep breaths and some light stretching really helps. And, having a comforting morning routine can make a big difference. What about you?

Kielyflower · 30/10/2023 16:37

I’ve bought some camomile tea today and making a little calming ritual out of making and drinking that. Some gentle stretches is a good idea and finding a distraction.

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Kielyflower · 31/10/2023 04:15

Have been awake since 2.30am and can’t get back to sleep due to anxiety.

Not sure what I’m hoping to gain by posting here but it’s a distraction of sorts.

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DramaDivaDi · 31/10/2023 04:25

Good morning. I’m awake too - depression for me rather than anxiety as I have cancer and my life is shit.
Dont have anything to say really but you are not alone.

Kielyflower · 31/10/2023 04:37

Morning @DramaDivaDi

I’m so sorry to hear about your cancer and depression. I have had depression in the past too. Life sucks sometimes.

I hope it is of some vague comfort that there is a stranger on the internet sending you positive vibes.

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DramaDivaDi · 31/10/2023 04:42

It is! And I hope it is for you too.