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Mental health

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I just cant cope with this anymore...

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Nemoandthefishes · 10/03/2008 05:43

No sleep is killing me but on top of that whenever I am awake anxiety is kicking in which makes me have d+v. I have slept 3 hrs in the past 3 days. I have 3 young children and I just cant carry on. Ds is in school nursery so have to keep going for his nursery run. DD1 has bad asthma so again am teetering on the edge of a hospital trip and possible admission and for the past 3/4weeks dd2 has thrown up about 5 nights out of 7.
I am tired, stressed, irritable and nauseas all the bloody time. I am seeing someone for depression which has been ongoing since 2003. I just cant ever see a light at the end of the tunnel. Dh has tried getting up to help me but he obviously cant just sit up with me all night every night as he has to work. I am crying and tired but I cant sleep because as soon as I lie down to sleep I get stomach cramps and the d+v starts.

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posieflump · 10/03/2008 07:38

could your dh take some time off work to help you?
Was he around at the weekend? Couldn't he have helped then by taking the kids out and letting you go back to bed?

FairyMum · 10/03/2008 07:47

Yes, your DH CAN get up to help you. Men often hide behind the excuse of working. I work and I have survived on just a couple of hours sleep at night for long periods of time. So can a man! Split the nights between you.

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Nemoandthefishes · 10/03/2008 13:35

I know I know and believe me he did try to help all alst week but he was as much use as a wet towel..

He is on holiday leave from sunday next week for week and abit so will use him more then.

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HonoriaGlossop · 10/03/2008 14:00

I totally agree with Fairy. Going to work is not a reason not to get up in the night - after all you are working all the next day too. I will never understand this attitude that the person 'working' must not be disturbed. The kids are both your responsibility in the night unless one of you can spend the rest of the next day in bed catching up!

I think you need to withdraw your consent to him being 'as much use as a wet towel'; he must step up and HELP otherwise you will not be able to feel stronger. You need sleep to help combat this depression and he needs to help you get it; it's his responsibility as your partner and his kids father.

I think a serious chat with him is needed and you need to spell out how you need him to help.

When he's on leave could you decamp to family or friends for a night to get a good sleep through?

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