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Mental health

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I dread the weekend

11 replies

catterychange · 29/10/2023 08:03

I'm so lonely and dread the weekends with my 5 year old twins and husband.

I used to be a sahm but since working full time, I've lost myself. I'm the lowest paid at work and 20 year olds boss me about for higher pay.

At the weekend I'm seething. I deserve so much better than this.

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DustyLee123 · 29/10/2023 08:06

What are you doing to change the bits you don’t like ?

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catterychange · 29/10/2023 08:11

I'm trying for jobs but it's a struggle and I have two interviews. It's stressful and seems unfair that I have to do it after being a sahm.

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WASZPy · 29/10/2023 08:24

Are you resentful because you are back at work and you still want to be a SAHM? Or are you resentful because you felt you had to be a SAHM and now youv'e lost your footing in the career ladder?

It's not clear which way round it is.

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catterychange · 29/10/2023 08:26

Had to be a sahm and lost career footing.

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WASZPy · 29/10/2023 08:35

Is there any extra training you could do, or similar, that would give your career a jump start?

How long did you before having the twins? Maybe you just need to find a more family friendly workplace that doesn't write mothers off.

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catterychange · 29/10/2023 08:37

It became my whole identity. I felt good at being a mum. We'd visit parks and I'd teach them about things. We'd visit friends and go for walks and kids would play together.

I was lonely but I could go to playgroups and meet other parents.

I've never been good in a work environment. Everyone is bitchy and competitive where I work.

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theduchessofspork · 29/10/2023 08:43

Focus on finding another job

But also examine your attitude - there’s no reason it’s unfair you have to work after being a SAHM, most people go back to work. If your work environments are always bitchy that is not normal so either work on changing industry or consider whether it’s something to do with you.

See your GP if you have anxiety.

Wazzzzzuuuuuuup · 29/10/2023 08:44

If work is the problem, why do you dread the weekends?

FlorenceBoot · 29/10/2023 08:50

Go part time. You have two 5 year old school kids! Enjoy work and being a mum.

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catterychange · 29/10/2023 08:51

Because I'm tired on the weekend and the kids are bouncing about. It's too much.

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ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 29/10/2023 08:57

I never worked anywhere where people are bitchy or horrible. Mostly my colleagues have been kind, supportive and hilarious. Is this about your beliefs?

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