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Mental health

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Overwhelmed and lonely

6 replies

catterychange · 28/10/2023 20:04

I'm so fucking lonely.

I'm a mum of 5 year old twins and I'm struggling with the return to work. I'm a low paid job and my husband is in a well respected role. All I do is work then at the weekend, cater to the kids.

I feel like I have no one to talk to about this as all the women in my family were able to stay at home and regularly talk about the kids.

I have no one to talk to about the struggle of trying to support my family. Life is just so expensive and I want to go on holiday sometimes and give the kids a good life.

All the managers at my work are men and all the women are bitter and miserable.

I don't know why I'm typing this. I have 2 interviews coming up and I'm overwhelmed.

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Hillrunning · 28/10/2023 20:09

Well done for securing two interviews, that's great. I am assuming they are better paid? I know it is so hard when overwhelmed but if you van fidn the strength to put aside the stress and loneliness to temporarily focus on doing well in interviews then it will open up your life choices.

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catterychange · 28/10/2023 20:20

They are better paid thanks. So stressful

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Nemareus · 28/10/2023 20:22

Sorry Op. I just mentioned feeling this way when my kids were young on another thread. Fight for yourself- make every effort to go to parks, play dates, parties, talk to people, invite them for a cuppa. Don’t wait for him to change, go assert yourself. It takes work but you can get yourself a group of friends.

Icantsleepagain · 28/10/2023 20:23

Well-done on the interviews. Sounds like you're doing an amazing job though. It's difficult. I was nodding my head reading your OP. I totally get it. Hope things get better for you.

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catterychange · 28/10/2023 20:29

Thanks guys. Feels good to know I'm not the only one

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Hillrunning · 28/10/2023 20:47

It feels like there are a few separate things going on. You have done well at trying to address the job issues. Hopefully, you will be offered one where not only you get paid more but also you have genuinely lovely colleagues who you can get some social interaction from. Will none of your family be able to sympathise just because they haven't been though it?

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