I'm a 23 year old female finishing off at uni. I live at home. Although it isn't my parents' job anymore to look after me, I am still depending on them while I get up on my 2 feet. Am I an asshole for expecting some respect from my mum (47). If I make a small mistake like making the bathroom mat too wet or accidentally making a mess then clearing it off myself also, she gives me a big shouting like I messed her whole life up. I try to be understanding as she is having a tough time at work too, but I am just tired of always being anxious of when she will yell at me next for the stupidest reasons. She is not receptive to love/care neither to firmness. And nowadays it is like she doesn't even talk to me, all communication is done via shouting.
I have mental health issues too, and she is making it worse, she is never there for me as a mother but I would hope at least her behaviour wouldn't get in the way. I am not allowed to get a part time job and I have to be home in the evenings and on the weekend. I have to inform her where I am going and when I will go. It is like I don't have let alone independence, but even breathing space. And I'm tired of the constant ridicule and just being treated as I have no right to live because of any of my shortcomings. Don't all humans have shortcomings?
It feels mentally exhausting as I feel isolated having no real friends and not being able to make friends either, and not even having any sort of emotional support at home. I can't just move out and say no as I am not financially independent either. My dad just doesn't get involved either. I feel a bit lost in life. And I request all that if you have any negative comments please keep them to your self, you will never understand what anyone is going through until and unless you are in their shoes. All helpful comments are welcome.