I don’t know if I can cope with this

[Ilovepugs2017]

Noticed DH has been really low lately so suggested he speaks to a GP about his low mood.

Tried having a heart to heart with him the other night about how he’s feeling and I’m thinking he is actually suffering from depression. He says he’s been feeling low for around a year and a half but worst lately.

The problem is I’m trying to be supportive and help him but I don’t know how much longer I can cope. He is started to bring me down. I suffer with anxiety myself with depression at times and whilst I manage to keep the depression at bay I can feel it creeping back in.

Just today he’s in a right hell of a mood and blaming me for things which are not my fault! I don’t think he’s being very fair and making me feel guilty for things like having an evening with my sister and that type of things which was months ago! I haven’t spent any time with her lately because I’ve been trying to make sure he is ok! It’s really upsetting me and getting me down to the point I’m just really unhappy

Hey, his low mood doesn't make it okay to treat you like that. It must be hurtful being continually blamed and guilt tripped, of course it's affecting your own mental health. You can have empathy for him in his struggles and be supportive, while still speaking up for yourself and asserting your boundaries. If you're a hugger I'm sending you a hug - this sounds like a really tough time.

Is he willing to speak to his gp and deal with his depression?
You carry on spending time with the people you need to and do not be isolated because of his problems.
The last thing you need his him blaming you for his insecurities.
It is enough with what you are dealing with.
I hope he makes an appointment with your gp asap.
Chin up and put yourself and your needs above his.