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Friendships

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Star8181 · 15/10/2023 15:42

I have to say firstly, I feel really vulnerable writing this, please don’t think badly of me, I already hate myself anyway….

I seem to have a problem when it comes to friends of mine. For example today a few of them have met up without me. I know it’s just because (without going in too much detail and outing myself) they have done an activity together today that they’re all involved in and I’m not.

Logically that’s fine, they’ve even told me about it, so why do I feel so sad. I always think it’s because I’m not as good a friend as they all are, or because I’m not good enough, or fun enough or whatever. I can’t stop thinking about it all day and I’m just moping around. I’ve always felt left different to everyone else, like I’m the odd one out. They’ve assured that’s not the case, and it’s normal to meet up with different groups of friends. So why am I so insecure? 😓 I’ve felt like this my whole life, I wish I didn’t.

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Geogaddi · 15/10/2023 21:10

Hi op.

Sorry to hear you're feeling this way. I think it's quite common to feel let down or distant from some friendship groups and it can be hurtful. I've had so-called close friends do things together without me because they assumed it "wasnt my thing" and i found this hurtful for a long time.

My best advise to you is to start to love yourself a bit more and accept yourself just as you are. I started to accept that I wasn't as sociable or "fun" as some of my other friends but I had lots of other good qualities too. You are just as important as anyone else, no matter how different you may feel.

I stopped caring as much. And just enjoyed the time I spent with my friends, not expecting much back and got on with enjoying my life and being me.

When you see your friends next, ask them about the event and be engadged and interested and you might find it sounded awful or it wasn't nearly as fun as you imagined.

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