Hi,
Throw away account but have followed for years. I need fresh perspective, to outlet and maybe just maybe find someone who can help because I genuinely feel if I didn't have another child and my beautiful dog I'd end it.
It's long.
I have a daughter who is 13.5 years and she has been what I can only say brainwashed and coercion has went on in the family. Things have got so bad she is in a care unit because her being at home wasn't safe for any of us.
Back story. My at the time OHs mother was way too involved with my DD and was always wanting to have DD at her house, over spoil, push me and her father out. When she was 2 years old I found out MILs OH was sleeping in the same bed as DD and I did not like this one bit, there was never a need to and I said never again. I was ignored and it happened again. I stopped contact for 8 months.
At the time OH pressured me to get all the family back on track and I did, against my will. For years all this strange obsessive behaviour got too much but I was cast off as the family nutter. Her partner "took the kids a drive" without a phone and fucked off for 3 hours, at a time, for years on and off and I went to the police because I just didn't like this creepy behaviour constantly brushed off and I was told "without evidence" nothing can be done.
Fast forward since DD was 12 she flipped and was doing very risky behaviour of drinking, smoking, acting out, fighting, underage sex, attacking me for keeping her in the house and taking everything away. Police were called several occasions because I couldn't control her.
She told school I hit her (I pushed her when trying to attack her brother) and I had child protection on me and arrested, thankfully dropped. While she was under CP investigation, she was put at the grandparents after ALL my concerns, that she was something to do with this behaviour. This became a regular pattern like it was planned.
It got to the point I couldn't cope and put her in voluntary care and my life is an absolute mess. It gets worse. The reason I put her in care was because I couldn't cope with the fact the MIL allowed a nearly 16 boy to ply my 12 year old with alcohol and he sexually had his way with her in the MILs home! I made sure the police charged him but they didn't charge the MIL who encouraged the boy to come round!!! Anytime I tried to stop DD seeing her I was slapped, hair ripped out, glasses broken.
My DD still doesn't take in what happened and thinks the gran done nothing wrong!! My daughter won't speak to me! The gran BLAMED my daughter for it happening! I have the message!
Now I am apart from my 13 year old and she has the best relationship with her abuser grandmother.
Social services have been told off me this is corruption and news paper material.
As I said if I didn't have a son and dog I'd not be here anymore. I have slashed my arms several times in severe rage. I don't know how she sleeps at night. It's demonic.