Feel like it’s all too much

[Sillybiggs]

We’ve had a trying week with DH, DD and myself getting ill one after the other and I just feel it’s too much. I struggle with depression but I’m on medication and doing therapy and really felt like I was turning a corner. I don’t have any friends (not even exaggerating, years of MH issues have meant I’ve distanced myself from everyone I know) and all of our immediate family live far away and we aren’t close enough to cry on their shoulder if they were around.

I know this is part of parenting but it feels like we’ve had one thing after another for weeks now and I just feel so alone, isolated and overwhelmed. Before being ill DD had a bad fall, before that problems at work, before that problems with the house, problems with family it just never ends

I dream of a day where I’ll have friends and be able to exercise to help my mental health and won’t be such a horrible cow to everyone I love but it seems so unattainable. I keep telling myself it’s PND and I’ll buck up eventually but after 18 months I think this is just the way I am.

Has anyone felt similar and made it out the other side?

How old is your child?

Can you go to mother and toddler groups?

If not and your child is at school invite their friends round? This is a great way to get to know other parents

Also what are your interests? There are so many local clubs now that you’d be able to meet people that way

Stay positive - life happens to everyone - choose to not burn your mental energy on things you can change and influence not those you can’t

@Quitelikeit Thank you for replying. She’s 18 months and you’re right I am viewing life very negatively. I do go to play groups twice a week and to a drop in when we can. I suppose it just feels very superficial when I’m there and a lot of the other parents already seem to have their groups and there’s no space for us.

Honestly keep going to the group keep chatting someone will eventually let you in. They all likely met there

keep on keeping strong you can do this and 18 months is a hard tiring age.