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I really need to talk to someone

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Cats234 · 07/10/2023 15:39

Is it best to go to A&E? Or ring the samaritans? Or wait until Monday to ring my GP? I'm frightened.

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Mumdiva99 · 07/10/2023 15:40

A&E my lovely. Tell them you are in crisis. I hope it gets you help.

Valhalla17 · 07/10/2023 15:40

Hi op, what are you frightened about? Call samaritans to speak to someone quickly...they might then direct you to a&e if needed?

OhHolyMoly · 07/10/2023 15:41

I once rang the Samaritans. The lady I spoke to was wonderful.

tiredmama23 · 07/10/2023 15:42

Will talking to us help in the meantime, OP?

Sophia89 · 07/10/2023 15:42

Do you want to tell us what is making you feel that way?
You can phone Samaritans straight away but A&E will also help you x

KimMumsnet · 07/10/2023 15:43

Hello, OP. So sorry to hear you're feeling this way. Here are some links which might point you to a place which could offer you some help: https://www.mumsnet.com/i/mental-health-webguide
We'll move your post to our Mental Health board now.
Take care.

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Cats234 · 07/10/2023 15:51

I can't function. I'm sleeping most of the time as much as I can because being awake I feel so scared about everything.

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Sophia89 · 07/10/2023 16:07

I'm listening. Not great with advice but I'm here right now listening to you x

Cats234 · 07/10/2023 16:27

Thank you @Sophia89

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NigelFaragesTinyConscience · 07/10/2023 16:29

This high anxiety can be resolved. Samaritans can keep you company until your GP Monday. If you can get an appt a private GP might have one

Sophia89 · 07/10/2023 18:06

I've talked to the Samaritans myself. I know what it's like to feel scared and alone. Hope you are ok right now.

Cats234 · 07/10/2023 19:40

Thank you @Sophia89
I'm not okay.

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Breakingpoint1961 · 07/10/2023 19:47

OP..do you think you'd be better with people around? If so, A&E is probably better for you x

Kaill · 07/10/2023 19:50

I went to A&E about a fortnight ago with extreme anxiety and panic attacks (I have health anxiety and thought I was dying). They turned me away. Said they only treat acute illnesses like cuts, burns, broken legs etc, and for anything longer term I’d have to see my GP. So I wouldn’t rely on getting any help from them. Maybe years ago but not now. I would try the Samaritans.

Scutterbug · 07/10/2023 19:54

I’ve been sent to A and E by the crisis team several times and then you get access to a mental health worker. Are you known to mental happy services? If so, call the crisis team. If not, yes to the Samaritans or if you feel more comfortable typing, then text SHOUT but they can take a while to reply x

Lilibert456 · 07/10/2023 19:54

Samaritans. A&E don't want to know. Please Samaritans they are brilliant. X

CutiePatooties · 07/10/2023 20:16

I’m here if you want to talk. You are not alone xx

Balloonhearts · 08/10/2023 23:31

If you feel you cannot keep yourself safe and may harm yourself, go to A&E. If you are safe then ring Samaritans or other helpline or talk to us here until you can get a GP appointment in the morning. Be up front with the receptionist, tell her you're having a mental health crisis and you should get a same day appointment.

Make A&E a last resort as its not the most restful environment for someone in crisis and if you'll excuse my putting it bluntly, it tends to be more of a holding cell. Once you're there you will likely not be allowed to leave until you have been assessed. You will be bottom of the pile as you are technically now safe and do not have a limb hanging off or raging septicaemia. And those chairs are awful to sit on never mind sleep on.

They may have a psychiatrist on call but may not and they tend to basically just keep you there until you're too exhausted to be a threat to yourself then release you with a crisis number to call and a referral that can, in my experience, take up to a year to get anywhere with. A referral that your GP will give you without putting you through the trauma of being detained at A&E.

Having had experience of it myself, I would not recommend it. 0 🌟 would not stay again. Not unless I was at the point of actually killing myself.

I know it feels so so urgent right now but you have to push through it and remind yourself you don't have to do anything right now. That was my mantra. You don't have to hurt yourself, you don't have to be ok, you don't have to take charge of the situation. Just sit with it and it will pass.

You can message me if you want, if it will help to talk to someone who gets it. But get that referral to mental health services or if you can afford private counselling, I wholeheartedly recommend it.

Cats234 · 11/10/2023 04:31

Thank you @Balloonhearts I really appreciate your reply.

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Tilllly · 11/10/2023 04:46

How are you doing @Cats234 ?

Shasha3709 · 11/10/2023 04:50

How are you feeling today ? Have you managed to speak to anybody would it help to talk here ? Please don’t hesitate to message if you need to speak.@Cats234

Albioncreed · 11/10/2023 04:57

Hi @Cats234 ,

I know the anxious feelings are horrible and uncomfortable now. But I promise you.. they do get better. If you can, go for a shower just now to distract yourself. And sort out your sock drawer (honestly, it can be therapeutic)

id recommend calling the samaritans just now unless you think you’re a danger to yourself or someone else.

Cats234 · 11/10/2023 20:08

I'm doing a little better thank you everyone.

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Tilllly · 11/10/2023 20:58

That's good news. Do you have plans for tomorrow?

Cats234 · 11/10/2023 22:10

@Tilllly I am on a week of very much needed annual leave and I don't have much planned tomorrow just sorting my house out a bit. Will do some exercise at some point as have realised its absolutely key to feeling okay mentally. What about you?

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