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Why can't I be a grown-up?

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NeedFocus · 03/10/2023 19:00

Not sure if this is the best thread title but... have name changed because I'm weirdly embarrassed about this.

I have a good job that pays well and I like my colleagues overall. Am currently working on my biggest project so far but struggling to feel really involved and focused on the work - having got used to smaller but more time-pressured jobs that I was more hands-on with. I've always had a tendency to daydream and be more interested in thinking about books I've read or films I've seen. I've had some trauma in my childhood from sexual abuse and I've often wondered whether I've got into a habit of disassociation and getting myself mentally out of the present as a result?

I have a lovely DH and two kids so I've done quite ok in life - which makes me wonder why I can't seem to be fully invested in my job or indeed the present? Why do I always seem to be thinking of something else and what can I do to stop doing that?

OP posts:
CancertheCrab · 03/10/2023 19:01

what is a grown up?

NeedFocus · 03/10/2023 22:10

CancertheCrab · 03/10/2023 19:01

what is a grown up?

I guess someone who can focus 100% on their job and their present life, and does not spend so much time daydreaming?

OP posts:
HuntForRedOctober · 04/10/2023 06:56

I’m not sure grown ups like that exist OP. Some people are just good at putting on a front.

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