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Mental Health Support at Work

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azu · 30/09/2023 14:21

I have long term mental health issues (depression, anxiety and PTSD) for which receive medication and talking therapy. My mental health issues do impact on my day to day life, even with medication, but most of the time I can manage this with support from family and friends, my therapist, and self-care. However, in the last few months I have started to slip downhill quite rapidly.

I work for a large institution. My workload and responsibility has recently increased substantially (although my post/pay has not changed). A few months ago I experienced a traumatic close bereavement, which I witnessed, and there have been a number of family and legal issues stemming from this which have been very challenging and upsetting. Since this has happened I have been struggling badly with my mental health, which has now been exacerbated by this increase in workload and responsibility since this traumatic bereavement. Indeed, it has left me teetering on the edge of terrifying full-blown depression. I am struggling every day to cope, from getting to sleep, getting out of bed, to managing and organising my workload, to commuting to work, to getting through the day without crying. I have had thoughts of harming myself,., although I do not have a history of this, and have no intention of acting on them. They are just intrusive thoughts. I have been to see my GP, who advised me to discuss at work, although they did offer to sign me off. I am currently doing my job to a standard where no one is noticing I am finding things difficult, but I have no idea how much longer I can go on.
I approached my manger and asked for a referral to Occupational Health and explained the situation. I got my referral, OH at this point have advised reasonable adjustments to allow me to manage my workload and prevent me from being signed off.

My manager has dismissed the OH report out of hand. They think I need to take up yoga and improve my diet. They have said I am behaving unprofessionally as I got emotional during a meeting with (just) them to discuss my workload. They said that actually my workload should be more and will increase, and have suggested time management training. This manager is now 'micro-managing me' and scrutinising/criticising aspects of my work. I have been in post for 12 years and never experienced this before. If I have had problems with my mental health this has always been supported and accommodated at a department level. This person has been my manager for a year.
I don't want to create more issues, and I am exhausted and upset, but I am not sure what to do. To go above this manager will anger them. Does anyone have any advice?

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Dumbles · 30/09/2023 16:00

Sorry to hear that OP 🩷

Unfortunately I think you will have to go above your manager as they don’t know better than occupational health. Could you speak to HR? They can hopefully offer more support and insist on the adjustments OH have suggested?

Otherwise you’ve been there longer than your manager so maybe there is another manager or colleague you can go to?

You are allowed to get emotional and it’s understandable you would in a private meeting about workload etc. Their job is to help get the best out of you and support you so it’s a pretty shocking thing to say from them. Do you feel comfortable working with this manager?

azu · 30/09/2023 22:09

Thank you so much for responding @Dumbles

I haven't really had anything to do with HR before, but it seems that this might be an option - so thank you for suggesting it. I just feel so alone in this, and have been bottling it up - I'm not feeling very strong at all. I don't want to make things worse but at the same time it can't carry on like this. I have a former manager who is now heading up a different team that I can talk to in confidence, so I think I will do this as well. I am just struggling with dealing with this on top of everything else.

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Dumbles · 01/10/2023 07:38

You’ve gone through so much @azu so it’s going to take a long time to start feeling back to yourself.

Definitely speak to HR as that’s exactly what they are there for. A good HR team will insist on following OH’s advice.

I would definitely speak to your former manager too. Just ask to go for a coffee and talk about what’s been happening.

Do you feel like you’ve had enough time off since the bereavement? It might be worth speaking to the doctor to look at being signed off for a while. Maybe you need a bit of time to rest and recover.

Hope it gets better x

azu · 01/10/2023 22:27

Thank you @Dumbles - and I think you are right. It's all so overwhelming. I am going to (try to!) get a Doctor's appointment tomorrow. Again, thank you for your support - I haven't felt listened to in a long time. x

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Dumbles · 02/10/2023 08:19

Anytime @azu! you are welcome to PM me if you ever need a chat 🩷

Good luck getting a doctors appointment 😱

Iguessyourestuckwithme · 02/10/2023 20:34

I used able futures which was a really supportive way to access therapy/support but in a work based mode.

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