Son with psychosis - parent support

[Breakingcircles]

I’m hoping that somebody can please advise me where to get support as a parent of an adult child with psychosis. My child is 20, is estranged from me (not my choice) and lives in a hostel. I’m not allowed to know much but I know he has psychosis. Likely depression and possible autism too.
He blames me for his situation yet I did everything and then some to help him and put his siblings through hell in the process. Deep down I know what he levels at me is unfair but I just don’t know how to deal with my own feelings. I feel such grief and I can’t get over not having him in my life. He has been steadfast for a few years around how much he detests me and doesn’t want me in his life.
I know he isn’t capable of thinking rationally but is there any support groups people can think of where I could gain a better understanding? My heart breaks for him and the state his life is in. He is in a terrible place in every sense of the word but has made it passionately clear he hates me and I am to leave him alone. He is such a bright boy who doesn’t deserve to live like this and I am utterly powerless as a mother to help.

I have tried counselling but it hasn’t helped thus far. How do I help? How can I get over not having a relationship with him?

Any advice very gratefully received, thank you.

💐 OP.

Google your local carers’ centre who will have access to knowledgeable nice people to whom you should be able to unload. Call SANE too, the charity. Or just self-refer to NHS talking therapies.

You’re not allowed details of anyone else’s medical records unless you’ve got POA or they’ve given you written permission. Even if they are your vulnerable child. Not much you can do about that, so try and let it go.

DS might not be doing great at the moment, but chances are he’ll stabilise and go forward to a perfectly decent life.

Don’t despair - good luck with talking it through. You’ve got a lot to get out.

@Supersimkin2 thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I’ll look up SANE. I’ve had quite a lot of therapy through NHS. I guess I just want to understand more about psychosis specifically and to try and make sense of this hatred. It’s very hard. But appreciate very hard for him too, indeed harder. Thanks again x

Good luck. It’s one of those diseases where the damage is done on other people too, but you can look forward to
better times in most cases.

This link might be helpful https://www.rethink.org/help-in-your-area/support-groups/
best of luck
xc