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When is life going to get better

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Nads38 · 05/03/2008 14:29

I am having such a nightmare at the moment. My 2 DD (2 yo and 7 month old) are sick and have been for the past 6 weeks, my DH has just had spinal surgery, we are on the verge of bankruptcy (serious financial problems) My Dad had a massive heart attack on the weekend (he lives in Australia and I can't get back to see him) I am working my head off as a consultant and not getting any money in, I am just so sick of life, I cry every day about how much I hate life.

I am sorry to be so moany, I am not normailly so negative, but its just so shit

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BINAH · 05/03/2008 14:42

no advice but big hug...hope your dd and dh gets better soon.....and your dad makes a speed recovery...

MrsJonnyDepp · 05/03/2008 18:03

Im so sorry to hear this - Why are you not making any money "working your head off?"

vnewmummy · 05/03/2008 18:52

Hi,

Big hug to your xx

Firstly you DD's will get better. Your husband has just had a big op but again I guess this is to improve his health so he will get better too.

It must be so hard for you but hang in there. Just take 1 day at at time.

As for your Dad is it possible for you to call him? If so try a cheap international company and call. You will feel better once you have spoken to him a few times.

As for your money situation, is it worth going to get financial help? Citizen Advice is really good for pointing you in the right direction.

Hang in there, I hope you can just take it a day at a time and be proud at how well you are currently looking after your family xxx

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Nads38 · 06/03/2008 12:01

Thank you guys for replying, just reading comforting words help.

I work on commission only from home, as putting the girls in full time day care would just not be viable, I am working so so hard with no rewards, and today is a terrible day, just can't stop crying.

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littlewoodster · 06/03/2008 13:58

Hi Nads38, sorry you are having a rubbish run of things! Do you have any close friends/family you can talk to? Can you take an hour out now, wrap up warm and go for a nice stroll. It might clear the cobwebs a bit and you'll feel better for some freash air

lucyellensmum · 06/03/2008 14:38

Nads, its sounds like you have sooo much on your plate just now. I know how stressfull money problems can be, im in the middle of that particular roller coaster ride myself. Can i give you some advice that helped me out alot. Make sure you get all the benefits by the way of tax credits etc that you are entitled to. If your income has suffered due to DHs injury/illness then you must surely be entitled to something. Give the tax credit people a call and they can advise or give you a number re other benefits, you can find their number online. I put off applying for ours as i didnt realise we could have it (DP self employed), was sick when i found out how much we were entitled to. You could be entitled to sickness benefits for DD, attendance allowance (if he cannot be left) all sorts of things, they never bloody let you know about these things. Youve paid you taxes so get on their backs and get what you are entitled to.

Why is it that life does this to us, piles all the shite on at once. I found that everything that could go wrong went wrong for me after DD was born (not because of her!). It did get too much for me in the end.

You sound sooo stressed out, maybe a trip to the doctors regarding some counselling?? I was put onto ADs and they helped me, but i am wondering if you just need somewhere to vent all this.

lucyellensmum · 06/03/2008 14:41

oh and big hugs to you - don't cry anymore This will get better, i promise

MrsJonnyDepp · 06/03/2008 20:09

Thinking of you. I work from home too - its hard - I think when you work in sales and on comissions - you can work toooo hard. People need to feel that its an honour to get the product and others are biteing your hand off for it. I know when I was exhusted and low - I was unable to see the wood for the trees with the big hole i was in.

Is there anyone you can talk to? I'm sending you strengh and a surge of positivity. xxx

katyamum · 06/03/2008 20:26

Big hug. It's terrible when the kids are ill. But they will get better. And you lose sleep and we all cry when we are this tired. And you must feel so far away from your dad. I'm so sorry for you. Your husband will recover from his surgery and before long you will look back on this dark chapter. I'm sending you strength to cope with the terribleness of the present. Tomorrow is another day. If you post on mumsnet you will get lots of love and support. Keep in touch.

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