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A little lost in my early 40's

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LifeBeginsNow · 19/09/2023 16:37

Looking for some help/ tips if possible.

For the last 8 years, major health issues meant I withdrew from society, stopped contacting anyone and just focused on getting through the day rather than enjoying it.

I no longer work (health reasons) and miss the interaction but I am hopeful I can return part time at some point. I've moved abroad (temporarily) and have had to start from scratch making friends but it is so hard. I don't want to be constantly messaging/ hanging out but regular meet ups and a kindred spirit would be great.

I feel like I've jumped ahead in age, missed out on loads and now don't know who I am or what I'm doing. My youngest child has recently stopped breastfeeding so my role as a mum has changed too (although he does still need me).

I need to reframe my mind and get positive. I feel a bit flat but do have times when I enjoy myself. I don't want AD'S again as they just create an even constant and I want some more highs!

I find myself overly focused on age (probably because I've missed out on so much) and have this niggle in my head that I'm going to be told I'm dying. It doesn't help that most of the mums I meet here are significantly younger. I don't have a problem talking to them but in the back of my mind, I worry they see me as old and dull.

Can anyone help with me finding some direction to happiness please?

OP posts:
Dawn1331 · 19/09/2023 16:41

I'm 46, my son is 5. I have found not thinking about age has helped me, I have friends of varying ages but none who struggle with anxiety.
The right AD might help you short term

LifeBeginsNow · 19/09/2023 17:21

I need to try and stop. My body feels a lot older than it is and due to the pain, I walk like an elderly person all hunched up at times which doesn't help the mindset.
Maybe I should start the day telling myself I'm 30 years old and take it from there 😄

OP posts:
Dawn1331 · 19/09/2023 18:22

@LifeBeginsNow I'm at college and I'm the oldest and it's actually quite fun!

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