Grief and loneliness

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My dad died about 8 weeks ago and my in-laws haven’t been in touch with me since the funeral.

I’m a bit cut up about it as I feel it’s really insensitive as I’ve been married to my husband for 22 years and been with him for over 30 years. It’s not as though we don’t speak or anything, I thought I was part of the family but they seem to be treating me like a stranger.

I understand that sometimes people don’t know what to say at times like this, but a text to ask how I am wouldn’t go amiss. But there’s just silence from them which feels incredibly lonely.

don’t know if I’m being overly sensitive because I’m in the midst of this awful grief. Just wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience?

How often are you/they in contact normally? Did they know your father well? Do they have other stuff going on in their lives? So many possible variables.

It's sad that they're not giving you the support you think they should; maybe your husband can talk to them about how you're feeling. Do you have friends/siblings/other relatives who you can reach out to?

Yes my in laws didn’t bother sending any condolences when my dad died 😢. We’ve been together for 30 years so it hurt but it is what it is.

So sorry for your loss x

We have been relatively close in the past and yes, they knew my dad very well. They know how close we were and how much I loved him.

I don’t like to put my husband in a position with his parents because they’re not really in touch with him either and he has lost my dad too.

I think I have to just accept it is what it is too.

they’re not really in touch with him either

Then this is 100% about them, not you. Lean on friends, your partner, other people who care about you.