I feel like I’m losing my mind

[mamaxbear]

I really don’t want to go to the docs but I feel like I’m going to have to soon. I feel like my head is just constantly going at 10000mph. I have about 927621 different cogs with all sorts going round them and my mind never truly is just quiet if that makes sense? I also worry about things that are completely out of my control and this makes me more stressed. I don’t know if I have something undiagnosed or whether this is just normal and the struggles of being a mum, default parent and having a partner that if I’m honest does little around the house. He’s great and I love him truly but he’s just lazy when it comes to housework, that’s another post though.

Does anyone else have the same? Is this normal?

It may not be normal but it is very, very common. SM tells us we should be able to juggle work, parenting, home life, caring for others and self care with ease and if we can't then there must be something wrong with us.

If you watch an actual juggler you'll notice that they can handle 3,4 or even 5 balls at once but if you threw in balls no. 6, 7 and 8 the whole lot would soon fall to the ground. Look really closely and you'll see there's only one ball in the hand at any particular moment. The key to dealing with life is to focus on just one thing at a time - do that thing well and then move on to the next thing. Anything that's not in your sphere of control, ignore. You have no idea what will happen in the future so trying to anticipate things that have not yet happened is an almighty waste of time and resources.

And your husband is not 'just lazy', he's letting you take the weight of the joint responsibilities on your shoulders. Are you happy for that to carry on?

Thank you. I am going to try my GP, I just have very little faith in them at the minute. You can’t get an appointment for starters and if you do it’s over the telephone. The last time I spoke with the GP to let them know I was feeling anxious/depressed after a car accident I was in with my daughter, she asked me what do I want her to do… 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think that’s a really good way of putting it. We try to juggle so much that eventually it does just that, falls to the ground. We’ve definitely had numerous conversations about him doing more around the house but inevitably I’m at home two more days than him, so in his eyes I should do the extra in the house. I’ve also communicated how I feel overwhelmed and things change for a week, and then we’re back to normal 🤷🏻‍♀️

Not sure if your age OP, but I'm peri-menopausal and my anxiety has skyrocketed recently along with my mood, and often now experience sensory overload. There are times I just completely lose my temper with the children because of it when I never would have done previously.

Just a thought that it could be a potential cause for what you're experiencing.

I'm 42, but symptoms started at 40 🫤

It was a lot of connecting the dots for me tbh, followed up by a chat with my GP and the woman who deals with HRT in the clinic.

Symptoms over the past couple of years were shortened lighter periods (3 -4 days, but now down to 2.5 days), weakened bladder, frequent mood changes and increase in low mood for a few days, major increase in anxiety and brain fog, sensory overload, and a raging temper if I'm pushed to the brink. And now also night sweats and dreadful body odour. 😒

I remember hearing (I think it was the Davina McCall menopause documentary) that many women experience an increase in anxiety and mood and eventually go to their GP's who fob them off with a bottle of anxiety meds rather than connect the dots and look into perimenopause and HRT.

It may not be perimenopause in your case, but perhaps someone else reading this might be able to find the above helpful and connect the dots like I did too.

I feel exactly the same and peri menopause definitely made it worse but it’s a daily battle
HRT helped to a point but like you and most others in this page you have good periods and then very bad I try to manage with cbt strategies exercise and a good diet but o struggle regularly and find this MN f
group really helpful and full of good advice
i take magnesium and ashwangada before bed which helps slow my mind to sleep