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Let's all share something

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mahsa1999 · 05/09/2023 16:19

During our darkest times it can often seem like everyone else is living the perfect life, when in reality, we are all dealing with our own difficulties, often in secret.
I want to share one thing that has been very challenging for me this year, I hope that you will do the same. Maybe somebody who needs to see it will see it and feel just a little less alone even if it's just for a minute, sorry if my above paragraph made you cringe.
At the end of last year, my 52 year old mother was diagnosed with stage two breast cancer. It came totally out of the blue as it does with cancer. We were all utterly devistated. The diagnosis came just as her first grandchild was about to be born and as I was planning to get married.
It has been so difficult, stressful and draining for her as well as us, and chemotherapy was the worst part of it all. Thank goodness. She has now had her surgery and all that is left is radiotherapy and then we can hopefully say goodbye to this terrible disease once and for all.
Don't lose hope everyone ❤️

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BerfyTigot · 06/09/2023 14:13

I have had a lot of health problems this year, which still aren't resolved. Trying not to lose hope.
Good that your mum is doing well 👍

Iguessyourestuckwithme · 07/09/2023 17:11

3 weeks ago today I didn't want to be here and nearly wasn't.

Today I am here because of the mental health services of the NHS who have been amazing. I have seen a psychiatrist, have meds and a team and I'm still at home.

So when I asked for help I got it and I wasn't immediately locked up. It can be accessed

BerfyTigot · 07/09/2023 23:38

@Iguessyourestuckwithme oh that's great news. So pleased for you xx

squidnames · 07/09/2023 23:58

I frequently visualize myself jumping off a building. I feel invisible and unappreciated by my family. I hate my job. I'm almost 40 and am not looking forward to life.

reallyunderstandsometimes · 08/09/2023 00:13

Everyone thinks I'm ok, I'm confident, happy, live a great life that I've built, on paper I have it all.

I feel anxious before meetings, have panic attacks on my own, have to breath and use CBD daily to calm myself, I think I'm permanently in a stress mode, I'm scared of lots of things and I have chronic pain, on and I drink to much and sometime binge eat.

I've got so so used to masking and being ok that I've forgotten to ever ask for help or support and now I don't know who would care.

I just carry everyone and nobody carry's me, I wish I'd learnt it could learn to be vulnerable.

OnTheRunWithMannyMontana · 08/09/2023 00:20

I think I may have (another) serious health condition but I'm too terrified to see the GP so I'm making like an Ostrich because my health anxiety has got my head firmly in the sand.

MumLass · 08/09/2023 00:26

I’m just about clinging onto my sanity after discovering my husband (now separated) betrayed me hugely in the most degrading way.

JamSandle · 08/09/2023 20:41

I lost my mum years ago and today is a day when I just want to join her. Life feels so hard.

coffeeisthebest · 08/09/2023 21:13

Thanks for all your shares, it has helped me to read a little of other people's lives. I am having a difficult time at work currently and also feel invisible a lot in my life, apart from when I am grumpy with my children and I end up feeling like the worst mother in the world. I constantly doubt if anyone actually likes me, and it has occurred to me that my whole life has been spent wondering this. It is exhausting. I feel exhausted.

TheBuggerlugs · 09/09/2023 08:34

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Noalcohol · 09/09/2023 08:41

I’ve lived my life since my son was born for him. I thought once he was 18 or thereabouts I would check out however, he still needs me so my next milestone is when he finishes Uni. I have a loving husband and financial security. Not a lavish lifestyle but I don’t have to work if I don’t want to. I am 50 years old. I don’t know why I think like this everyday. I’ve always felt like I don’t belong in this world. I feel bad for my husband as he loves his family and is a good man.

JSmithIloveyou · 09/09/2023 08:42

I am having counselling ( again) been having it over 20 years. I have a wonderful counsellor this time and l am going private for EMDR( 2 Year waiting list on NHS) to try and rid me of the demons once and for all. ( Drug gang rape that left me with PID and 20 plus operations and disabled.. plus an abusive relationship . .. now my daughter is going through hell with revenge porn.. ( police involved .. going to court) she has PTSD.
But hey I'm still here.. have tye love of my family and a fantastic GP.
( Dertamined not to end back in psychiatric hospital). Sending you all healing thoughts.

CrapBucket · 09/09/2023 08:47

There is a link to Mumsnet mental health guide page at the top of the post, this is a very helpful thing - please don’t be suffering alone.

It sounds trite but the world is a better place with you in it! For your family, friends and the strangers you haven’t helped yet.

Sending love and strength

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