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What is the point?

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RhubarbRhubarb23 · 04/09/2023 18:04

I am suicidal. I think I've always felt suicidal - even when I felt happy I felt like I was on borrowed time. I had a fairly traumatic childhood which I've spent a lot of my adult life trying to work through but haven't got there and I don't feel I ever will as I don't think I have the resilience or skills.
I have been in the same job for a long time, I earn very little, I have no savings and don't feel like I have any career prospects.
I have a 5 year old son who I love dearly, but parenthood has not been what I imagined it would be. My son is rude, enjoys winding me up and I get absolutely no pleasure from being his mother. He is such a handful -he never listens, he will only do what he wants to do whenever he wants to do it. He wasn't always like this but now I don't see how he will grow out of some of the behaviours he has developed, probably due to my terrible parenting.

I lost a baby earlier this year in fairly traumatic circumstances, and I'm pregnant again. I feel like I cannot cope with another child because I cannot cope with my son...which feels weird to write and feel as we have been trying for another child for years. Now I'm pregnant again I am really thinking about having a termination. My 5 year old is so out of control and I am a terrible parent. I thought a big family was my dream but the idea of having another child feels absolutely terrifying.
I feel like the best thing for everyone, including my son, would be for me to die. I have tried reaching out to a few places to get some support but it's not forthcoming and I don't know how I can carry on like this. My partner is kind of supportive but is very lost in an intense job and doesn't really know how to support me when I am feeling this low.
I don't really know what I want to achieve by posting this.

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AndTheSurveySays · 04/09/2023 18:13

If you kill yourself then it's very very likely your son will do the same or at least attempt it in the future. You'll be fucking up his whole life way more than you ever think you are at the moment.

You must contact your midwife and/or GP and tell them you have thoughts of ending your life. Tell you partner too. You need urgent help.

HateLongCovid · 04/09/2023 18:14

Please ring someone like The Samaritans. You won't always feel like this. Don't leave your little boy without his mum. Talk to someone. It's very hard when kids are little but things will get easier. Flowers

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