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Mental health

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Original poster

Leaving the house more than once a day is EXHAUSTING

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Cosmod · 01/09/2023 12:39

I've had this issue a lot recently, we have a fairly new rescue dog and a 3yr old! I find I have to leave the house 2-3 times a day. Errands, dog walking and drop offs/pick ups to playgroup. It's taken a massive toll on me and I'm mentally exhausted, and physically!

I have a constant headache, brain fog, and feel so lethargic and it all amplifies when I'm preparing the leave the house again.

I used to do everything all at once but not being able to take the dog into Tesco is honestly exhausting lol. Would make my life easier if I could bring him into my daughter's playgroup 😂

I'm fairly healthy, I walk the dog for about an hour per day, I eat well, I definitely have a few undiagnosed mental health problems but just don't have the time or mental energy to see a doctor about it at the moment.

Is my brain weird or is there someone else that feels like this!!

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Bbq1 · 01/09/2023 13:54

Do you also work?

TreeHuggerMum1 · 01/09/2023 14:05

Having recently hit complete ‘burnout’ , I would encourage you to speak to someone (GP) sooner rather than later. I wish I had…

reallyunderstandsometimes · 01/09/2023 17:38

TreeHuggerMum1 · 01/09/2023 14:05

Having recently hit complete ‘burnout’ , I would encourage you to speak to someone (GP) sooner rather than later. I wish I had…

Can I ask what they were able to do for you? Without derailing the thread I feel the same and I've been wondering about burnout.

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Cosmod · 01/09/2023 22:34

Yep! 3-4 8 hour shifts a week :))

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Dungeonsandwagons · 01/09/2023 22:35

I’d feel the same. I have no mental health issues

Bbq1 · 01/09/2023 22:39

Cosmod · 01/09/2023 22:34

Yep! 3-4 8 hour shifts a week :))

Could you get signed off Op and see your GP for supper because what you're dealing with alongside work is a lot.

Bbq1 · 01/09/2023 22:39

Support not supper

Chickenmumsticks · 01/09/2023 22:40

any chance you have long covid?

MrsSkylerWhite · 01/09/2023 22:42

This is going to sound mean. It’s not meant to!
if you have a dog, you don’t really have a choice unless you have a big garden. Surely you knew that when you took on a dog?

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Cosmod · 01/09/2023 22:43

I knew it'd be a lot of work but didn't know it would affect me mentally like this!

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timberho · 01/09/2023 22:47

Being signed off work to enable dog walking doesn't sound right in my opinion.

blahblahhhh · 01/09/2023 22:50

What can a doctor do though? I've been like this years.
I'm on medication.
I have a couple of mental health diagnosis but there is no help,

tescocreditcard · 01/09/2023 23:03

can you get a dog walker - that way you'd only have to go out twice to pick up your dd and you could also pop into the supermarket with her at the same time.

Or - walk the dog on your school run and get a supermarket shop delivered.

The only thing you can't really outsource is the school run.

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Cosmod · 01/09/2023 23:10

I have actually ordered a food shop, it's taken the weight off my shoulders a little actually! For now that is😅

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TheBuggerlugs · 02/09/2023 07:26

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witmum · 02/09/2023 08:19

The puppy blues are well documented on here and I guess the rescue dog is the same when it comes to adjustment.

It doesn't sound like you have too much on just normal family grind, maybe try to plan your week or day. Monday night is food shop, Tuesday is cleaning blah blah blah.

Put your clothes and the dc's clothes out the night before to reduce having to think and remember stuff. This includes leaving out stuff you need for the next day.

You have acknowledged not feeling right so if you don't think you need the doctor what else can you put in place to make life easier (this does not include selling your child or dog 😂).

90yomakeuproom · 02/09/2023 08:20

Bbq1 · 01/09/2023 22:39

Could you get signed off Op and see your GP for supper because what you're dealing with alongside work is a lot.

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A lot? School drop offs and dog walking?

Bbq1 · 02/09/2023 08:32

90yomakeuproom · 02/09/2023 08:20

A lot? School drop offs and dog walking?

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And clearly poor mental health. That's why I asked if Op works because just dog walking and school drop offs aren't much but add working into the mix.

nobodysdaughternow · 02/09/2023 08:41

I think the dog needs to go back. Prioritising your mental health means removing the stressors you can.

There is nothing a GP can do for you which will be more effective that that.

Also, just coordinate your trips out into one a day. Any more than that with a young child is too hard. Plan your day the evening before and decide what you can accomplish realistically. Learn to say no and let go the jobs which you can't get round to.

TheBuggerlugs · 02/09/2023 09:06

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90yomakeuproom · 02/09/2023 13:25

@Bbq1 even with work in the mix I would not call it a lot. Just usual working parent life. I'm not at all judging, just it's normal life and it is tiring OP yes, that's normal.

Bbq1 · 02/09/2023 13:38

90yomakeuproom · 02/09/2023 13:25

@Bbq1 even with work in the mix I would not call it a lot. Just usual working parent life. I'm not at all judging, just it's normal life and it is tiring OP yes, that's normal.

Tell me about it. I work full time in a demanding at times v stressful job, i have a family and have my own physical health problems to deal with daily. However, none of that takes away from the fact that Op is struggling right now. Yes, the issues sound minor to us but they aren't ti her. Compassion is free and it's not a competition. We all juggle our lives and commitments but right now, Op doesn't feel she can catch the balls.

Eyesopenwideawake · 02/09/2023 15:05

Have you got a carbon monoxide meter in your house?

BaroldandNedmund · 03/09/2023 15:30

90yomakeuproom · 02/09/2023 13:25

@Bbq1 even with work in the mix I would not call it a lot. Just usual working parent life. I'm not at all judging, just it's normal life and it is tiring OP yes, that's normal.

It is ‘normal’ life but some people can’t cope with normal life. Humans weren’t meant to live the way we live ….we may see it as normal because it’s all we’ve known, but it really isn’t. Some of us just can’t cope and burn out and it doesn’t matter whether you personally think that’s acceptable - it’s just a fact. The OP doesn’t need your opinion or validation on her energy levels.

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