I've not worked for a couple of years ,waiting for spine specialist.my husband is a carer for adult son ,always has been as I've always worked .he has never contributed financially to the household ,he is a drinker and a smoker ,the drinking is every night ,this costs roughly £450.00 a month for both ,he gets £300.00 carers allowance .he doesn't contribute to the household bills ,as he just hasn't got the funds .he never has done .I have asked him maybe get a job 10/12 hours a week ,which he can do on carers allowance,we are both nearly 60 .my dad passed away last year ,left some money to me ,I don't want my dad's money that he left just dwindle away ,I need him to help out financially,whenever I ask him about looking for a job ,he says I'm trying to cause an argument ,please somebody advise me ,I feel like I'm going mad ,I'm not waisting my dad's money .all his life he has done this ,please be kind ,I've had enough .thankyou for reading