How do you know what other people really feel?

[lowday]

When someone says they are happy and love you etc, all the positive things. How do you believe them? How do you know if they are telling the truth or lying?

Is it normal to not be able to tell? I'm waiting for an ASD assessment in case it's relevant.

How they act is normally how I would tell. If they say they are happy and the way they act tallies with that I'd believe them. Ditto with love.

You never know what someone else is feeling. Some people are harder to read than others and some are better at reading, but essentially, we don’t know.
Are you worried your partner doesn’t love you?

Thank you.

For some reason I am feeling really low today out of the blue and it's one of the thoughts going round in my head.

I've been with my husband for 15 years and he always says and acts the same so I suppose I just need to keep reminding myself.

Sometimes he says he isn't happy but I think he means life but in my head I think it's me. And I know I'm really difficult sometimes cause of my underlying difficulties and I don't feel like anyone can be happy with me.

I also think I'm doing something not right in the bedroom department as I've not had much experience or had anyone to discuss it with/a way to learn about it and it's weighing on my mind I'm rubbish. Husband says it's fine but again I feel he is just saying that to be kind. I guess it's the same with everything I've not learnt the usual things in life and im only just learning them as an adult, I find it hard to work out normal cues etc and it's scrambling my thoughts.

I find reading people difficult anyway but couldn't work out of it was an ASD thing, low mood thing or both.

I think it can depend on your experience of people. If you have a thought, check the facts as thoughts are not facts. If he has shown you nothing but love then why would it be a lie. Could it be that you are feeling low and this is effecting your interpretation of others.