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Bereavement/depression

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bluepaperpens · 06/08/2023 21:19

I lost my Mum a few weeks ago and although she did suffer from health problems it was a shock. We weren't hugely close, but there were times that I remember fondly. It's completely floored me and I'm struggling to function. I can't even build the motivation to do basic things it's like climbing a mountain. I just want to hide. Before she died, I was close the booking an appointment with my doctor for depression as I've been very down recently. I suspect I've always suffered from depression but this time I feel it's on another level. I really don't want to go on ADs again but I don't know what to do.

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Mischance · 06/08/2023 21:45

Maybe see your GP if depression was a possibility before your bereavement. I think that sometimes it is harder to get over a bereavement of someone with whom we have had a more distant relationship than we might have liked. So many mixed up feelings. Sending supportive vibes.

Shrillwaffle · 08/08/2023 08:09

bluepaperpens · 06/08/2023 21:19

I lost my Mum a few weeks ago and although she did suffer from health problems it was a shock. We weren't hugely close, but there were times that I remember fondly. It's completely floored me and I'm struggling to function. I can't even build the motivation to do basic things it's like climbing a mountain. I just want to hide. Before she died, I was close the booking an appointment with my doctor for depression as I've been very down recently. I suspect I've always suffered from depression but this time I feel it's on another level. I really don't want to go on ADs again but I don't know what to do.

Don’t hold off calling and booking an appointment call straight away and get the ball rolling. It’s not surprising you feel that way, I lost my baby last year and honestly you feel like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel and youll never feel better again but time if a healer and life does become liveable again I promise xx

Ariela · 08/08/2023 08:40

Could you contact a bereavement charity/find a bereavement therapist?

RuffledKestrel · 08/08/2023 09:44

I'd suggest counseling if you don't want to go the antidepressants route first. It worked for me when going through similar, although there was a 3 month wait.
When my mum died I dragged myself out for at least a 30min walk twice a day. It helped lift my mood a bit. Some days I'd simply take a book and read on a park bench for an hour. Just getting out the house is a start.

GardeningIdiot · 08/08/2023 09:52

I'm sorry for your loss, @bluepaperpens.

I found this grief counsellor's podcast very helpful and comforting:

https://refugeingrief.com/

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bluepaperpens · 08/08/2023 20:19

Thank you so much for all of your replies and good advice x I am feeling a little brighter today. Forced myself to do some exercise this morning and trying to eat a little healthier. I think it has made a difference to my mood today, so I think I'm going to try other routes first and perhaps counselling before going the AD route. Although I'm expecting to feel up and down, and I've been on then before. we'll see

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