Worried about mum as she is having lumpectomy.

[amynSaintnixmum]

I am feeling so powerless to do anything to help my poor parents. My mum found out last tuesday that she has breast cancer and she is going into hospital in 1/2 hour to have a wire inserted into her breast and then tommorrow she is having the op. Have just spoken to her and she sounds really anxious - she says she is alright but she isnt and I just want to see her and hold her and make it all alright and I cant. I know that the success rates are high and I'm trying to keep positive but uts really scary thinking that I could lose her. My poor dad is an bits but pretending he's fine because he thinks he has to be the strong one. I have told him to lean on me but I know he won't - he thinks he has to be strong for everyone.

be strong for your mam, my mam had same, was was fine that was about 5 years ago, its hard but try and be strong for her she'll need you right now! your dad will be gutted too, thoughts are with you! hope all will be well x

Thanks whitechristmas- thought no-one was talking to me. I am being strong for her I just wish there was really something i could do and of course there isnt really any more i can do except be there.

thats right just be there, offer her help with shops cleaning ect, i felt that if i could take away just a little of what she was going through i'd have took it all, its hard seeing someone who youve always depended on being unwell, but im sending you a hug and please be brave for your mam if you look scared it'll only worry her, i really hope all goes well, keep me up to date i know exactly how you feel xx

Thanks. I am going to try and get to see her in hospital tommorrow afternoon after dh gets back from work. It depends on what time the op is. Then we are all going round to be with my dad. We haven't told him as he will tell us not to come because he's fine etc etc but we are going anyway. I am not leaving him alone in his house all night with his head filled with morbid thoughts.