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I feel like everyone hates me

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kat259 · 28/07/2023 20:18

Over the years, I have noticed that the majority of people just don’t like me and I really don’t know why. I honestly think I’m a good person and other people have said that I appear friendly happy smiley etc. however I don’t have many friends and I struggle socially as people just don’t seem to like me. The current example is school mums. They have all formed friendship groups where they meet up without me and post all over Facebook etc. When waiting at school at drop off or pick up, I try and make conversation but people don’t want to talk to me. They’ll give very short answers until someone they actually want to speak to comes along. I try and not take this to heart but I just don’t understand what I do wrong so guess I’m asking if anyone can help? It’s not just school mums, it’s pretty much anyone I come into contact with! I have a few friends - but their friends never like me. My husbands family don’t like me. My own siblings partners don’t like me. I have tried asking my husband and my friends and they just say I’m being silly and worrying too much. But actions speak louder than words right? Does anyone know what I can do about this?

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feelingsversusfacts · 28/07/2023 20:35

It’s so painful when you feel excluded and have no idea why. I don’t really have any answers or advice, only that I feel like this too. It’s the most natural thing in the world to crave human connections.

All I can think of is to focus on really strengthening the connections you do have with your husband and friends and to look for ways to bolster your self image. Maybe in this way the opinions of people you don’t even know very well will matter less? Good luck.

WalkingTalkingSwearing · 28/07/2023 21:48

Hi OP. How hurtful this must feel. It’s so good that you’re at least attempting to make conversations with people, I’m just sorry how they respond. I’ve no answers as such but definitely don’t take it personally. The fact you have friends shows some people do very much like you. Best wishes.

kat259 · 29/07/2023 21:13

Thank you both so much for replying and I’m sorry that you also feel this way @feelingsversusfacts - however nice to know I’m not alone! I am an over-thinker, and a worrier etc and I’m always thinking I must have said something wrong and so I go over and over the conversation in my head but never get anywhere. It’s exhausting. Maybe I will try and put that energy into something else. Thank you again

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