Dealing with obsessive thoughts

[lking12]

Hi all,

Related to my other thread I keep thinking about moving back ‘home’. However with our jobs in the south East it’s not really possible.

Having decided it’s not feasible to move I continue to think about it, I’d say several times an hour. It’s leaving me panicky and down.

Does anyone know what might help stop these obsessive thoughts or what therapy I could look to to help?! I don’t want to blow up our lives and move as we could easily become financially in trouble if we do and I have three young children.

I have these thoughts when we don’t really see other ppl on a weekend especially as I know back home we’d be popping round to see family each weekend.

Ive had this before when I started dating my now husband and was very anxious and kept wondering if we were right together or should we break up (that turned out ok!).

Any ideas?

I recommend getting a notepad and writing everything you are thinking in relation to this issue down on paper. I find this gets it out of my head and stops the ruminating, good luck!

Could it be that you're not enjoying your new life because you are constantly comparing it with your previous home area and therefore you're seeing it as inferior rather than a new adventure? You need to give it a chance - find a new favourite cafe or bar, start chatting to shopkeepers and neighbours, join a local group. Try imagining you're there on holiday and explore all the local attractions, countryside and day trips.

Your former home will always be there but you now have a whole new world to enjoy!

In October I will have lived here 9 years!
Its since having children I want to be back near family but it's not possible to move due to jobs.

Ah, sorry - thought from your post you'd only just moved there! Is this part of wider feelings of anxiety or is it specific to your location?

No wider feelings of anxiety but after having kids we can't enjoy London in the way we used to, and it's made me feel quite lonely. We can go the whole weekend without talking to anyone else but each other and the kids and that can be quite hard. But moving isn't financially feasible (jobs back home pay much less, but I can't afford the commute to London either) and the constant thinking about it and what life would be like is getting me down.