Books to help reinforce that I am enough and my feelings are valid

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I'm coming to the realisation at almost 50, and with the help of a therapist that I have struggled all my life to have a voice. I've been a people pleaser and squashed my own thoughts and needs away so that I can fit in and go with the flow.

Unfortunately a consequence of this is my H didn't like me finding my voice and is divorcing me because I have become "difficult and opinionated. "

I'm beginning to understand it and luckily I have some friends who have helped me by reminding me that I am ok just as I am and don't have to do as I am told. But understanding and believing seem to be a long way apart and I have a lifetime of conditioning to work against.

I think I need to try to have more voices and things in my life which reinforce what I am learning, and to help it sink in.

Can anyone recommend a book, or podcast? Or anything else which might help- people to follow on SM maybe?

Have a look at this article and video on Core Beliefs;

https://www.betterrelationships.org.au/well-being/core-beliefs-self-acceptance/

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And this book is well worth a read;

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Responsibility-Rebellion-Unconventional-Approach-Empowerment

@Eyesopenwideawake thank you I'll take a look at those.

To overcome people pleasing tendencies I recommend the book 'Codependent No More' by Melody Beatty.

A great way to find your voice is to literally rewire your subconscious to feel enough. I can DM you a blog link if you like?