Will a doctors visit really help?

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Hello, wondering if anyone has been to the docs to get help with low mood. What help was offered, do you think it was worth going?

I keep talking myself out of making an appointment, feeling like I can just struggle on. Some days are better and I don’t feel like I need help. Some days I’m so so down and the only positive spin I can put on it is everyone dies it’s just a waiting game as to when is your turn. To clarify I’m not suicidal just very low confidence, low self esteem and struggle to see how I can feel better. I have a very clingy 2 year old and just don’t have any time. No family near, no support, partner works full time and is knackered rest of the time. It’s the classic, I’m trying to do it all but don’t feel like I’m doing anything well.

I spoke to my GP and they did some blood tests to rule out a physical cause.

I also referred myself for talking therapy and after an assessment was put on a course of CBT. I didn’t find it overly helpful to be honest but it was something to try,

Have you done the NHS depression self assessment on line ? It might just help to see where you really are.

Life (or more to the point, SM) would have us believe that we should be able to have it all, and do it all and if we don't we're a failure. We think we should work best when we have multiple things on the go at any given time. This isn’t actually true.

Just because we are more likely to trigger an adrenaline response when we are at risk of becoming overwhelmed that doesn’t mean we are then working at a higher level. We can potentially cope with many things at once, but we then don’t then excel at any of them - we work best when we can give complete uninterrupted focus to a single task.

When you think about it, even a juggler only holds one ball at any one time.

A juggler might be comfortable juggling 3 balls at once, he might feel more challenged by 4. He might struggle with 5 and then when someone throws the sixth ball his way...he drops all of them.

If we attempt to do multiple things at once we are always leaving ourselves vulnerable to reaching the point where there just seems too much to handle. We inevitably become overwhelmed, shut down and drop everything.

Pick what's important to do at any one time. Anything else, leave until you have the mental and physical capacity to cope.