Coping with feelings of inadequacy...

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Over the last few weeks, I have been overwhelmed with feelings of inadequacy which are having an adverse impact on day-to-day living. After almost every social interaction, I am left with a sense of being 'less' than those around me in terms of myself, my relationships with friends and family, my achievements, my interests, my children, my parenting etc. It is seeping into every aspect of my life and is stopping me from engaging with people which feeds the cycle. Does anyone know what I mean? Any tips on how to overcome it? Thanks.

Hi, i am so sorry and in the same boat. It's exhausting !

Only suggestion is that you see a doctor but write 5 positives down and read them out loud every day

Hopefully it passes soon x

I feel like this too OP. I feel like I’m drowning then see others happy, chatting and having fun. I often wonder where have I gone wrong!
I often journal which helps a bit and like the above poster says, 5 positives.
Hope things improve soon for you.

I get this too OP and it's really consuming me at the moment. It's just there in the back of my mind all the time. Constantly comparing. Something else i've noticed recently is younger people on TV or YouTube who appear so adult and mature in the way they speak and their mannerisms.

What do they say, comparison is the thief of joy?

I totally get where you’re coming from though, and it’s interesting to see others feeling the same. Life feels bleak, it’s like a melancholy hanging in the air everywhere you go yet looking at Insta or Facebook it’s as if everything is perfectly fine and dandy so it’s hard to tell if it’s me or others are just ignoring reality.

I think a social media detox is needed, I’ve recently found I’m increasingly looking at Twitter which has zero positivity and is filled with chaotic conflicting opinions and agendas so I know I’m not doing myself any good but deleting the app is almost impossible to do…

Thanks everyone. It's not so much a comparison problem or a social media one as it is a lack of faith in me and my competence, decision making, likeability etc. I come away from conversations second guessing how I have come across, why I haven't got such an active/healthy/sociable life, how I eat, the decisions I make for the children (right school, level of homework, involvement, independence etc). It's exhausting.