Just feeling so stressed

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I (32m) just don't know what to do anymore. I have a beautiful family with 2 children and a partner.

In the last few months my motivation is just not there and my time is just constantly being eaten up for me to recover. I have a mum who needs support with any day to day life and I am a carer for my grandmother and uncle. I also work full time. I have tried so many ways around sorting things out so I can spend more time with my partner and children but this always backfires on me because I need to sort something out somewhere else yet every single one of them tells me that I do alot but don't say don't worry. My uncle is a relapsing alcoholic and my grandmother seems to be encouraging him and it feels to me like it's the last straw. I am honestly feeling so down and useless it's unreal. I am a depression sufferer anyway and have attempted suicide in the past and honestly I don't know any way out apart from that. No one seems to let up or give me a break.

I appreciate this is all a bit self centred but honestly if they would give me a break then it would help.

For context my grandmother had 3 sons one lives in the USA and my dad who's the middle one got so fed up he cut all ties 8 or so years ago but if I do that my grandmother is fucked completely as the uncle can't seem to do an online shop. It honestly is unreal and I have a sister who can't really help due to her own personal commitments. Or grandson hasn't contacted her in over 14 years.

I am honestly not sure what I want from this or if I just needed to vent it but I have had enough of it and just really at the end of it all.

Sorry for the essay and if you made it here thanks for reading.

Step back. Your priorities are your child, your job, your partner and (possibly, depending on her circumstances, your mother). You can’t add in an uncle and grandmother with any hope of keeping all those plates spinning, it’s just not possible.

Alert social services to needs of your grandmother, let loose your uncle and start prioritizing your own health and family.

You need to tell social services you can't support them anymore. Then just stop doing it.

As long as you remain competent, nobody else needs to do anything and nobody will do anything

So focus on your own family and yourself now

No advice but big hugs OP 🤗

You can't be all things to all people OP or pour from an empty cup step back and prioritise your immediate family 💐

Thank you everyone, I will speak to them and speak to social services. I thought it was just me feeling this. It's so difficult to step back.

My dad was an alcoholic and it took an ambulance being called and a paramedic explaining to me that while I kept doing everything (buying food, making sure he was ok, I never bought alcohol) he would carry on. As hard as it was I had to leave him to try to sort himself out. Im not saying it was easy or that I didn’t feel huge amounts of guilt but things did change.
Your uncle has to reach a point where he wants to change and no one else can do it for him.
For your grandmother again while you’re caring for her none of the support services will step in. As others have said contact social services and explain you can’t do it any more snd you need an assessment visit.
Again it won’t be easy but hopefully it’ll be a move in the right direction to you being able to spend time with your family and you starting to feel better. Big hugs