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Lonely but not unhappy?

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cassiatwenty · 16/06/2023 17:34

I feel like I'm sinking. I'm bored, and I feel lethargic most of the time. I don't really enjoy things like I used to. I just do my routine every day, get out in nature, but I feel like nothing's going on.

Back in March, I was brimming with plans and dreams and wanted to accomplish them. I had lots of energy and enthusiasm and I was keen to meet people and connect with them.

I was supporting a family member get a (good) job they really wanted, but right now I feel really drained. I'm not getting any support (emotional) with going to uni (which is what I want), and said family member enjoys this status quo.

However, I feel like I'm wasting my life slowly without any guidance, perhaps being used a bit.

I live in a very beautiful and safe place but nothing much is going on. People are reserved and there's nothing much happening. I yearn for connection, and I'd like to experience something nice.

But as much as where I live is a safe space, it's also a place where nothing much happens.

Any advice, tips, similar experiences and such?

(I'm well aware that there are people who have it worse than I, I just thought it would be best to post and ask for advice before I get even more depressed)

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cassiatwenty · 16/06/2023 17:39

I know this doesn't seem like that much but I exhausted every option offline. I've been holding this in for so long, but nothing changes, before I was nervous about posting but right now I suppose it's better to ask than say nothing.

I'm not very good at this by myself.

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kizziee · 16/06/2023 21:01

You might find it helpful to get some counselling to help you a/ really focus on what you would like to achieve (and set some realistic objectives) and b/ set some boundaries so that family members are not dictating the life you get to lead.

cassiatwenty · 16/06/2023 21:53

Thank you @kizziee for helping. Counselling sounds like a good idea with establishing realistic goals and figuring things out.

I'm more successful in asserting myself and stating my boundaries with family members.

Just that a lot of my energy goes there and trying to stay afloat VS making progress in areas where life might be a life of my own.

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