Not coping with life

[eatingsaladinthesun]

I want to start by saying I have been diagnosed with complex ptsd caused by childhood trauma, not had any help with it, waiting lists. Because of this I don't no how to deal with things properly. Our land lord has said they want to sell, we have been here 10 years not bad tenants but they are getting old and don't want to have to deal with properties they have anymore. We won't be able to get ha house as dh earns to much and there was only one on the website when I looked. Rents for other private rentals are all so much more than what we have been paying for a private property, ours was on the cheaper end as it's not in great condition. We are going to see about a 100% mortgage but don't think we will get anywhere like what we need. Houses are so expensive where we live.
I don't no what to do, if we can't find anywhere and are homeless.
My dh and daughter could go and live with mil, her house isn't massive and she wouldn't want all 4 of us there . My son could live with his dad, so they are sorted and won't be homeless but I don't no where I could go. I have no one. I'm no contact with my parents due to the abuse. As I said earlier due to ptsd I don't think about things properly and I'm in tears thinking I'm going not going to able to see my children as I will have no where to live.
I'm head my would just be easier to kill myself as I can't bare to see my kids ( I'm not depressed it's just my bodies way, I didn't understand why I felt like I wanted to kill myself with out being depressed, it's due to going through so much trauma in my life).does anyone have any sensible suggestions out of this situation?

I have no one.

Gently, you have a DH and two children - all of whom need you and none of whom will ever recover if you went through with your thoughts (I know you're not going to but just needed to make that very clear). If your son went to his dad's surely you could go to your MIL with your DH and daughter as a short term plan?

It would be really good to deal with your PTSD as it's clouding your capacity to think clearly. It's something I work with with very good results and I'd be very happy to help if you are interested.

Firstly how much does your husband earn? The threshold for social housing in my area is £65k a year. If he’s on anymore then that then you should be able to afford at least a 2 bed flat somewhere.
I understand it’s hard, I’ve been there. It’s your depression that’s making you feel alone but the reality is you have your family so you are never alone. We got our social house when we had to move out of our rental property. We moved in with my in laws for a few months and due to it being so overcrowded we got a home within 2 weeks.
if your husband is earning over the threshold for social housing, maybe apply for it without him.
go and speak to your local housing association, they should be able to offer you some advice on your situation but you will get through this I promise.

Thanks for the reply, her house really isn't big enough for the three of us so it really wouldn't work. Obvs I'm not going to kill my self couldn't put my dc's through that, unfortunately after years of abuse through my childhood and being told how unlovable and other things on a daily basis it has affected me so much, along with all the other abuse. I would love to be able to deal with my ptsd but unfortunately I don't have the funds

My dh doesn't earn that much but there really isn't anything down here, my dc's also wouldn't be able to share due to their ages. I'm glad it worked out for you housing in the south west is a nightmare right now

Your kids and DH love you more than you know. Sorry you're going through such a hard time. I live in an expensive area but its surrounded by cheaper areas. Is there an option to move slightly further out to get a cheaper house?

Is it OK to DM you?

I should add my ds could go live with his dad but he only has him one weekend a month so he would let him go and live with him is another story. My ds wouldn't be comfortable living there but it something he may have to do

hi Op, I would suggest reading this book about CPTSD which has amazing practical suggestions for coping and healing:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD/dp/1492871842

As you see it's got 5 stars / 9000 reviews for good reason.

It is a little hard to get through at times because it hits the nail on the head but the practical suggestions are so good.

Hope this is helpful.

Yes

Would you landlord sell to you by preference? Could you perhaps stretch to buying that property?

Just wondering as my friends was struggling to afford anywhere but a couple selling who wanted their house to go to someone lovely let her have it for less than the next buyer because they just preferred to sell to her.
Maybe if your LL could avoid estate agents fees by selling direct it could be something they might do for a good tenant of 10 years?

The landlord may do they are just having it valued now, not sure how much it's worth so aging don't no if we could buy it

My marriage is good thanks for asking

He could and that would be the ideal thing as we don't want to uproot him and mil lives 10
Mins away, my dh is his dad in all but biology's, but if it wasn't doable his dad would have to step up. My dcs will have somewhere to live

My ds is 15, so GCSE's are about to happen

I just wanted to let people no that we are no where different with the house, we still don't no what's happening regarding that. But my mental health is completely different. Eyesopenwideawake has been working with me and I am no longer have any bad thoughts I feel like a totally different person, I have a clear head now. The complex ptsd has gone. I don't no how she was able to do it but I feel like she is a miracle worker. I have lived with this all my life and honestly thought I was 'broken' and would never be able to live as a person who doesn't have these thought. It only took 2 sessions she really is a miracle worker and I really can't thank her enough.

A fellow C-PTSD sufferer here. What is this miracle cure you speak of? From what I can gather treatment takes months, several months.

@eatingsaladinthesun Thank you. 😊

It's Remedial hypnosis, she speaks to your subconscious. I honestly didn't think it would work but I feel like a totally different person

It's no problem at all, thank you so much for what you did for me, I can't thank you enough