hello.
My ex friend is causing lots of grieve with a mutual friend, who is going through a stressful time atm.
This ex friend is well known for all her supposedly supportive ways and is a ,member of our local church.
I've been very ill for the last few years and the ex friend would offer help, unfortunately it was only to make themselves look good.
The friendship broke down over a year ago as i realized her ways fitted the covert narcissistic spectrum in many ways and nothing i ever would do would please her, she made me doubt every inch of who i was and im not a person of low self esteem at all.
I've recently been well enough to start attending church again.
This ex friend has made it clear to our mutual friend ,she disapprove s of her helping me, told her she is taking sides and my friend will generally get numerous messages from ex friend each time after she sees her with me.
Iots,of things happened to make my decision to end the friendship, none of my other friend's would ever treat me the way she has.
She just cant seem to let go and leave me in peace. I hate the fact she has a go at my friend each time she's been with me.
Its all about us making her look bad and its unfair as she doesn't know what's she's done. ( she knows exactly!)
I need some advice on how to deal with this, i feel so guilty my friend is getting it in the neck from her, but I've gone 'no contact' with the ex friend as its the only way i can cope.
Any thoughts?