My friend tried to take their life.

[Stoptheworld1000]

A friend who has suffered for a couple of years with her mental health following a relationship break down has recently tried to take her own life. I'm shocked and devastated. I can't even imagine the place she was in to feel like that was her only option. I'm seeing her in a couple of days for the 1st time since. I am absolutely full of anxiety. I just don't what to say to her. Has anybody been in a similar situation, any words of advice?

I've never been in your position @Stoptheworld1000 but if I was the first thing I would want to do is give them a big hug and if possible, subtly find out if they want to talk about it or not. Have you been communicating with them in other ways since it happened? I'm sure she is anxious about it too. Just be a good friend to them which I'm sure you are.

One thing a friend said to me was that they get a lot of “oh my I didn’t have a clue, and if you need anything let me know” neither of which are helpful - when they are feeling that low and alone they don’t want to reach out to anyone. Proactive steps can be useful - is there a particular trigger? Is there a particular time of the week or anything you can support with. Can you regularly message or pop by so they don’t feel alone? I don’t live near my friend but I make a point of messaging or engaging with them every few days. And listening.

obviously this is just my friends story, not everyone’s. It’s scary as a friend, to know that someone you love has come that close to taking their life. I struggle with feelings of guilt that I can’t do more tbh.

Tell her how much you love her. How glad you are that she's still here. Listen to her if she wants to talk. Sit in silence with her and hold her hand if she doesn't.

My partner committed suicide 18m ago. Massive shock. It torture. I would hug her and take your lead from.her. Good luck OP

I don't know her & I want to hug her.

Everyone is so different, it's hard to know what she needs. All of my closest friends would want/need different things.

address the elephant in the room though, don't make it something that she feels she can't/shouldn't talk about.

I hope it goes well xx

I'm so so sorry. I hope you're bearing up x