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Need some space

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shadypines · 18/05/2023 21:20

I have DH working at home full time and DS 24 yr still looking for a job ( that's another story) and I feel ready to crack.
I get virtually no space and time to myself. I'm at the point of telling DH he has to go to office perhaps once a month. Guarantee if I shut myself off in a room to read/ do a hobby DH will soon come mithering me. I lost my rag last week when I wanted to read in peace and put a 'do not disturb' sign on door and he still came in to talk to me.
I've been reading some articles on tips about WFH and one tip is to go to office now and again. I WFH but have to hybrid work too, so sometimes I don't want to trek into work but I realise it is good for me to get out so I know it's not just me being on a short fuse.
Just feel better for writing this down. Hopefully someone can relate.

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lunaxandilet · 21/05/2023 01:18

OP, I'm so sorry. People need their space to heal, and being with someone all the time can make us feel chronically stressed out. In turn, this can lead to depression.

Going through this with a family member right now. I've expressed my needs politely and clearly, and explained that love is having your own time as much as being with someone.

Hairday · 21/05/2023 01:19

I hear you!

shadypines · 21/05/2023 09:38

Thank you for your replies, @lunaxandilet yes that's exactly how I feel, chronically stressed out and fed up. I don't look forward to weekends or days off very much as they don't seem much different if that makes sense. Sorry you are going through it too, you make a very good point about expressing yourself politely and clearly. Hope things get better soon.
Btw part of me feel terrible for feeling this way as I do very much love and appreciate them but I suppose your last sentence covers that.

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