I don’t know where to start - health / work / relationships?

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I feel as if every single aspect of my life is a mess and yet every single day I put on a brave face and the effort of appearing ok is draining me to the point where today, I just couldn’t get out of bed

my relationship status is a mess and I work in a job I largely despise, which is at the same time high pressured (and relatively high paid, making it hard to jump ship without an equivalent due to financial commitments)

I am feeling so, so low and I have been thinking of going to speak to my GP regarding anti depressants as this is a low mood that has persisted now for months on end. I feel like I can’t equip myself to deal with the turmoil it will take to potentially end my marriage or leave my job without feeling better within myself, but if it’s those things that are the actual problem will ADs simply mask that?

I’m so confused.

Which thing is causing you the most stress? What would you change in an instant if you could? You're clearly going through a lot right now, so maybe give yourself a bit of room and time to think about how you'd feel with one individual thing removed from what's going on. Good idea to speak to Your Doctor and even if they suggest AD's you don't have to, just maybe consider it as it could make things more manageable.

Thanks for your reply. That’s the issue. I don’t know whether it’s my state of mind making work and relationships feel awful, or whether the state of them (which objectively it could be seen are awful, but I put on a brave face) is causing me to feel so depressed.

You should definitely speak to your Doctor, In the meantime, can you cast your mind back to before you felt like this and how things were then with work, relationships, etc? Maybe this could help you get on track to feeling better.

I will try and get a doctors appointment this week. It’s so hard to take time off work though. I have been taking St John’s wort since just before Xmas but it hasn’t seem to have any affect at all - I’m now worried that might interfere with what the doctor could prescribe?

If I cast my mind back to a time I felt happier it’s a time I felt valued and wanted, I don’t feel either of those things now, and my self value is terrible too, I really can’t go on feeling this way. It’s most definitely worse with PMT also and I’m starting to experience PMT like symptoms for pretty much a quarter of the month

Have you considered a phone appointment with the Doctor? I know it's not ideal as a lot of people prefer face to face, me included but it could be easier. Assuming your surgery offer it.

Yeah, I’d take a phone appt too. I just struggle when you ring at 8am and have to take what’s offered - how I fit that in at 11:20 or whatever if I’ve a meeting 11-12! And here’s an example of my overthinking….

I know. It's not easy these days getting an appointment and then being offered one you can't make but remember your health is as, if not more important than a meeting and you don't have to accept the first one they offer you.