Unhappy living Up North

[Tam52]

Hello, I moved to Grimsby from Brighton 6 months ago and I am so unhappy. The place where I live is full of elderly people on mobility scooters and the area is so boring and I miss the energy and creativity of Brighton. We moved here to be closer to my husband’s Mum who was ill and we have just found out she has terminal cancer. My family live around Brighton and I miss my mum so much, we are very close. The other issue I have is my brother-in-law who lives two roads away and has sexually harassed me twice ( no witnesses ). I have been really affected by this and after telling my husband about it headed back to Brighton. The BIL has denied it and my husband continues to have a relationship with him which I am finding very hard. I feel I need to go back to Grimsby to support my husband over the next few weeks/months but am anxious about seeing the BIL and am in emotional turmoil. Please help! Thank you

where was your husbands support for you? nope I'd stay in Brighton

Sounds like more of a BiL problem that a living up north problem.

But yes, I think it you're from the south then the north can be quite different. I have to travel there for work sometimes, always enjoy the train ride home to London more than going there. I would never even consider living there, but that's just personal preference.

You need a short term plan to discuss with your husband that you need his suppprt re BIL and you'll support him with his mum, and a then longer term plan which involves you both (or on your own) moving back to Brighton.

If you think of it as a plan that can be worked through in time you'll be able to better cope with the next few months I recon

Your dh has let you down. He has chosen to believe his brother over you. Now if you go back, BIL will think he can do as he pleases.

I'd stay in Brighton.

Explain quite clearly to your dh, why. He needs to show some solidarity and compromise or you should seriously consider why you are married.