Struggling with .. Everything

[ElleC90]

Hi all. Newbie to the forums here, have been a lurker for some time. Basically what the subject says, I am struggling with everything at the moment and don't really know how to fix it. My mental health has been slowly declining and feel its really bad ATM. Bit of back story...I left husband end of 2019, cheating constantly going out and eventually, DV episode. Was homeless, managed to get a council flat for myself and 2 DC and all was rosy. Pandemic hit, recovered from that (just) and met new partner end of 2020 who is amazing, one of the best humans ever ❤ I work full time with one day in office in a mid level role which is demanding and mentally taxing and I feel I have nothing left at the end of the day for my kids, my partner, friends or family. Really struggling to juggle keeping the house up, kids clubs/parties/constant fighting, school runs on lunch etc etc. My mum was diagnosed with cancer in january and had tumour removed, just waiting to hear if she needs further treatment. I am so mentally worn out and drained, I am crying a lot and sleeping too much then am still tired each day. Sorry for the long post and basically moaning, but I'm at a loss of what to do. Trying to go walks, go to gym, read books etc but time is so limited and feel I'm constantly going from place to place rushing all the time. Anyone feel the same and has maybe come through this and can give some positivity? Probs just need a hand hold and to know Im not alone tbh 🙁

Sending a virtual hug and a handhold OP. Youve been through such a lot- but survived. No wonder you feel drained, you must be worried about your mum
and being a single mum in a demanding job is hard.
Theres lots of positives too, stable home, good(if demanding job) and a lovely partner and DC.
Sounds like you could be a bit depressed, I think its worth visiting your GP, counselling may help you process everything youve been through in the past and anti depressants can also be really helpful when everything feels overwhelming.
I was felt similar to you in the past and counselling and anti depressants saw me through and made a difference. Go to you GP. Things will get better.
If work is really draining is it feasible to reduce your hours or look for a less stressful job? Time off may also help you reset, it can feel like a treadmill when youve so many responsibilities and demands on you. I was recommended to list 2-3 simple things you are grateful for every day- might be something like your daughter made you a cup of tea or a birdsong in the garden, apparently it really helps reset your brain if you are consistent and do it every day- although if im honest i havent tried it myself! but I do know a few people who swear by it. I

You are not alone. I'm sorry you're going through all of that; you must be so exhausted. As PP says, there sounds like some positives which is something. Things will get better and you will feel like yourself again. Have you got a support network around you to lean on? Friends to share some of load with, with a cuppa? It may sound silly but when I've felt completely lost overwhelmed I practise breath work and it helps to calm me down. Even a walk to get some air can help. Hope things improve for you.

Thanks so much for reading and your replies. I think I feel like a bit of a fraud to be honest as from an outsider looking in, I have a great life. Good stable well paid job, two beautiful boys, fantastic partner, friends & family support. I feel like I have a blanket over me, as if someone has pressed a mute button on me you know? Going to GP on Monday and I think some time off with a view to reduce hours might also be the answer @Runnerduck34 💕

Good luck at the GPs on monday OP.
You arent a fraud, youve been through a lot and have a lot to manage day to day. I hope things look brighter soon