Lonely Wife And Mum

[BornIn89]

Hi, i expect no one will respond but you gotta try hey!
So since we moved to a new town afew years ago to settle down somewhere new after husband served in AF i have found it so hard to meet new friends. We have 3 children, ive tried to make new friends at work but they all have their circles so outside of work they arent bothered (and yes i have tried to ask about a meet up outside of work but with failed) mums at school during pick up have their own little groups so im never noticed and my god they can be so dismissive and rude! if i try to talk to them at a kids party i get blanked and the gracious view of their backs and now my kids never get invited anymore either, i think we were lucky to get 1 invite per child in the first place. We live in a small town where everyone knows everyone so it is just starting to seem like im going to live an unsocial life forever.
The majority of people who do speak to me at work are the customers and they are friendly old people. In my 30's it gets upsetting that i just cant seem to make a single friendship and it starts to take its toll on my marriage sometimes. Dont get me wrong my marriage is spot on but i need a mate!

Morning lovely

didn’t want to just read and run.
sending you some hugs
its really rough being a wife and mummy sometimes. You always feel like everyone else needs are met before your own.

I have 3 children also and married to a wonderful man. He’s hard working and works all the hours, which sometimes doesn’t leave much time for us.

im happy plodding along with the children and is doing our own thing.

it can get very lonely sometimes too.

I just wanted to say that these rude and dismissive mums, should know better but sadly there are some who are just oblivious to their own behaviour. But to be honest would you want to be friends with people like this anyway?? I don’t think I would.

there must be at least one parent/ grandparent that is in the same boat as you? And would love for you to chat to them?

I met the most amazing friend at my daughters ballet class, sometimes it just takes that one conversation and you just click.

feel free to message me would love to chat more xx

It sucks eh. I have 4 local ‘mum friends’ I meet up with every few weeks (although I don’t actually have much in common with them, and sometimes wonder if I even actually like them 🤔)

To get those 4 crappy friends I was relentlessly friendly and helpful to hundreds of women at playgroups and playgrounds etc for years. It was and is exhausting.

It’s hard, making friends as an adult. My advice for what it’s worth is

• Put yourself in lots of ‘meet new people’ places like local choir, church, running club, etc.
• Listen to people and ask questions about their lives FAR more than you talk about yourself
• Smile
• Don’t expect to find close friends fast and don’t be ‘too keen’ to have coffee etc or you’ll come across desperate

But it is very hard.