She is really low. She has had periods of poor mental health over the years and is on medication for depression (sertraline I think?) at the max dose.
She barely replies to my texts which I understand. But I still send them because I want her to know I am here for her. No way she’d answer the phone. She did send a rare reply today to my “hey love the weather is nice- want me to come and pick you up for lunch at mine tomorrow? Just me and the dog. Or I can come round to yours and we can just sit and eat Easter eggs?” to say that she is in a black hole at the mo, and can barely leave her bedroom.
Her sort of boyfriend is going round in the morning to sit with her.
Every time the phone rings I’m worried it’s going to be the police or hospital saying they have found her dead. She has 3dc, two have left home but the littlest is 10 and she is also so worried about her lovely mum :(
I have no idea how to help her as she won’t let me- we don’t have the sort of relationship where I could just rock up, she would be incredibly cross if I did. She and DN are living in really grotty conditions and I would gladly down all tools at home and go and get things a bit nicer for them at least, even if I wouldn’t be any help in other ways (would do anything I could but I know she needs more that just her sister tidying up). She also knows there is no judgement here, I have ADHD and my place has been awful in the past and she’s seen me at my worst. She refuses virtually all contact at the moment, she’s so far into her despair. I don’t even know if she is still going to work. She does seem to have the occasional night out with friends but that invariably involves alcohol which just makes things worse ultimately. I think she’s drinking loads at home too and suspect she has a codeine dependency.
I love her so much and I’m so frightened :(