Excessive worrying over normal things.

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I feel really anxious most the time. I cannot seem to enjoy simple joys of life because i always overthink situations and i think of the worst case scenario, (even when the day is going well and we are doing something wonderful)and it will spoil my whole day as all I'm doing is thinking of ways to stop anything from happening. If we have something planned in advance i begin to think of all the negative sitautions and consequences that could occur.
I sometimes try and cancel things for this reason. I have children and i know it will effect them if i carry on like this.
Growing up i was very carefree and as iv hit my 30s and after having children iv completely changed. I feel so down and my mood and energy is low. I want to take the kids out and about but always worried. When i had 1 child i was okay i used to go out a lot but after having 2 i just can't seem to go out unless my husband is there but still I'm worrying and constantly controlling situations. I look happy on the outside and normal but inside so my kids dont pick up much from me atm.

Iv recently been waking up with knots in my stomach i feel nauseous, i see my kids and feel an overwhelming sense of responsibility to make sure theyre okay my head stays there whilst playing games with them, reading etc. Theyre enjoying themselves but I cannot enjoy the moments and treasure them. I feel so upset about it.
How do i stop worrying constantly about everything? I have a great support network around me but i dont use it as i need to keep a watch on my kids as i know other people can be quite carefree and it completely freaks me out inside.
My husband is aware of this all to an extent and he usually laughs it off and says I'm weird when i do certain things but i don't really like to highlight it and usually put on a front. Any advice or experiences would really help.

Have you spoken to any professionals? Time to Talk for example would be able to recommend a course or start you on therapy.

Could you have started perimenopuse?
unfounded anxiety is a classic symptom. If you’ve never suffered form general anxiety before may be worth talking to your GP and at least getting some bloods done
im 60 and unfortunately since peri my anxiety issue and random depressive symptoms took off. I’ve had panic attacks etc. unfortunately during my menopause HRT was still something GPs were reluctant to prescribe. It’s a bit late for me. I have improved management of symptoms by understand it will pass in a day or so, and other psychological techniques

its horrible, op, you feel like a mad women!
Go to your GP as a first step and don’t let them fob you off

I feel like i should talk to the gp but i just don't have the mental energy.
I feel like hearing how other people cope or a fresh view on the situation helps.
I don't have peri menopause i have regular periods and no other symptoms. Although thank you for sharing your experience.

It's weird but sometimes deficiencies in your diet or unbalanced gut bacteria can cause anxiety.

Try to get your gut health really strong by adding in organic apple cider vinegar, sauerkraut, probiotic yoghurt (not Yakult, the proper organic fresh stuff).

Deficient vitamin B, iron and magnesium can cause anxiety too.

Deficient vitamin B, iron and magnesium can cause anxiety too.

Not sure if I have replied correctly but
my Auntie reccomended a herbal tablet/supplement called L-theanie which has helped me massively (I get a bit worried taking any tablets but googled before and found only positive stuff so gave it a try)

"L-theanine is an amino acid naturally found in plant sources such as tea leaves and some mushrooms. L-theanine benefits include helping to support alertness, relaxation, and sleep. The appeal of L-theanine stems from its ability to support a state of alert relaxation, so it can calm you down without causing drowsiness."

I had tried GP medication for anxiety but it actually caused me anxiety believe it or not

also getting out of the house no matter the weater , going for a long walk, being aware of my triggers ie hormones
watching hypnosis/guided meditation videos for anxiety before I sleep xx

Try small steps - maybe you could ‘practise’ going out for short periods with your DC to build your confidence up?
Look after yourself. Are you eating well and getting enough sleep? Some foods I believe help with anxiety - porridge? Protein like eggs and chicken/turkey?
Is the worrying worst at a particular time of day? Perhaps you could tackle this by something like telling yourself you are not going to worry now, and go do something simple as a distraction?
You need to find some ways of soothing yourself and stopping the anxiety before it takes over. I know this is easier said than done, but you have to find something that works for you.
You should also visit your GP

Have a look at this video - sounds like your anxiety is shouting to be heard;

Thank you that was helpful for me to understand myself a bit better.

Thanks for your tips yeah small steps seem more manageable.
I do eat well, sleep is okkayish..

Sertraline 🙌🏻🙌🏻 I did some online CBT (ieso health, see if they run in your area. It’s instant messaging, through the NHS) and it helped but sertraline is life changing. Also now trying to keep up with natural serotonin boosters but I am just in the research stage. There’s things you can do that help.

My rheumatologist told me that if you’re hypermobile (I am) then you’re more likely to be anxious as your nerves are literally loose in your body!!! Blew my mind.

My GAD really took off after having my second kid, it really is a heavy load! You’re not alone OP.