Can't do it anymore

[mebutnotmeanymore]

I just can't do it anymore. I can't cope. Tomorrow is my 10 year wedding anniversary and we are separated but yet still living together due to the housing crisis. Already this week he has told me to 'hurry up and move out' 'things would never have been this way if I didn't ask him to work more' 'I'm not human' I can't take anymore. I want to disappear I just want to die.

Op no man or marriage break up shouldn’t mean more than your life. You may be struggling now but please trust me things will get better. Do you have any one in real life you can turn to? Please don’t give up.

I don't have anyone. My parents are tied up with my sister. My niece's birthday is the same day as my anniversary so that take priority to them all. I know I sound selfish but. 10 years! I have no home, no life, I'm signed off work, I can't give my kids what they need. I'm just a useless waste of space.

I'm here, thinking of you. X keep your stuff you need in a bag, sleep knowing you can go quickly if it goes really wrong and that safety net might help you seek better help than I can provide.

You may feel that you can't give your kids what they need now (although I'm sure that that is not the case) but it won't always be that way. Things will get better and you will have happy times again. If you act on your feelings now you would be making sure that you could never give them what they need. If you don't feel able to talk to your family or friends could you ring a listening service like Samaritans.

I hope that doesn't come across as judgy OP, it was meant supportively

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