Yesterday comment still bugging me

[wowmummy]

Hi all

So I feel stupid about this but yesterday we went to the farm. Was sitting colouring with the kids, another parent sat next to me. They were using felt tips and us glittery gel pens and not even colouring the same design - hang on it matters!

So sitting there colouring and heard
Woman: everytime I'm using a colour she picks up the same one - I had no idea what she was using as I was with the gel pens
Teenage son: it's because she's copying you
Woman: she can't colour as fast as me though
Teenage son: yeah your deffo better than that
Woman: least I'm using crayola - does it matter ffs?

NOW I would usually have said something but peacefully with the kids colouring I didn't want to make an argument so said nothing but when I saw DH later I told him. I said there are so many colours in the rainbow like why does it matter? DH said that's how bullies are made from parents like that. But why? Over a colouring sheet? DH just said she's jealous because as a family we are well turned out, the kids always have their hair done and everything but that's my personal choice. My friend doesn't brush her daughters hair and I'll laugh with her when she says oh it looks like a birds nest on her head. If that's what she wants to do then fine. We all parent differently there's no right or wrong. But it bugged me she said as I was in a proper happy retro mode with those gel pens and she said that. And as well to a child, why? Just makes me feel shit as I wasn't copying her and there is limited colours in the world. So what if I chose pink if she was using it?

A mother and her teenage son actively harassing a random stranger about the coloring sheet sounds really weird. Best to be avoided. Don't over think it.

They weren't talking about you surely? What makes you think they were? If you were copying them, they may have found it amusing enough to comment on between themselves. If you weren't, then id assume they were talking about someone else or sharing an in-joke.
I don't think hairstyles are relevant 😂

Is there a reason this is posted in mental health?

It seems likely that you mis heard something due to feeling uncomfortable and paranoid or the woman has some sort of mental health issue causing her delusions.

None of this is based on reasonable logic that’s for sure.
Dont fixate on something you’ve overheard and obsess about it. Especially something which is nonsense.

are you sure they were talking about you?

I think maybe they were just having some sarcastic banter. I can imagine saying something silly like “she’s obviously copying me” as a joke because it would be ridiculous to notice or care about this with colouring as an adult. They probably just have a zany sense of humour about things.

This all sounds absurdly childish to be honest. The sort of drama 6 year old girls get embroiled in at the colouring in table.

Accusing this woman of being jealous of your daughter’s hair is again just ridiculously childish.

”Why is she being mean? There are so many colours in the rainbow” is something my 5 year old niece would say

Perhaps you both regressed while colouring in the Easter bunnies.

Maybe she was jealous of your Hunter wellies and Barbour jacket so tried to make you feel uncomfortable.
Or maybe it was your DD's JoJo hair bow😉

This ^ And other people aren’t? Jeez. Get a grip

And why is a teenage boy colouring in with his mother? All sounds very odd to me

Agree with this, I think you’re looking into it way too deeply. It’s the sort of stuff my DS will say in an attempt to be ironic.

I mean I don't just think you are overthinking it - I think you probably misheard or misinterpreted the entire conversation. Nobody would make strange comments about colouring pens because another family looked "well turned out". That is clearly ridiculous, so something else is going on here.

I can imagine having a conversation like this with my dd15 but completely in jest and just as a bit of fun, childish behaviour.

Your reaction to her comments seems to be far greater than her passing comments.
I’m not convinced the other woman has the issue. Are you sure she said it? And why do you think it has anything to do with you being “well turned out?” When nothing in what you said she said suggests that.
Even if she did say it you are massively over-thinking it. I would bet she’s forgotten all about it while you seem fixated on it.

You're way over thinking this. She was either have some daft chat with her son or being a weirdo. Neither really matters.

No one cares about how 'well turned out' your family are, and honestly that's subjective anyway. The fact that you even consider this to be a factor is utterly bizarre.

Move on and if you can, stop over thinking small interactions and how your children (and other people's children) look.

It’s a colouring sheet at a farm. It’s not that deep. Deep breath, blow out all the anger and hurt as you breathe out and move on with your life.