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Have just found out my mum has cancer

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amynSaintnixmum · 08/12/2004 10:36

My mum found a lump in her breast a couple of months ago and yesterday evening - after weeks of waiting - we found out that she has cancerSad. I am so scared and angry I just dont know what to do with myself. Everyone keeps pointing out that the survival rate for breast cancer is high and that she'll probably be fine and I know that they are probably right but I am feeling very wobbly at the moment. Sometimes it feels as if everything comes at once and I really dont feel like I can cope with it all. In october my sister had to take a greivence against the company she works for for sexual discrimination (amongst other things). Last week all the internal investigations were completed and the result went against her. She is now faced with taking this huge multi-national company to court and is so stressed about it all that she has had to be signed off work and given valium. Also in October my 4 year old ds was excluded from school for the first time, he was then excluded again in november and is still only doing one hour a day in school (two adults and him out of the classroom) and this will continue after xmas. And now to top it all off the lump we had all convinced ourselves was benign turned out to be malignant.

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GingerBells · 08/12/2004 12:21

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WigWamBam · 08/12/2004 12:24

I'm so sorry to hear that. My dad is being treated for testicular cancer at the moment, so I can understand at least partly how you feel. It's normal to feel scared and angry, but I think it's important that you try not to show your mum how scared you feel. I know it's a difficult time for all of you, but someone said to me that the best thing that I and my dad could do was to keep positive - I know it's a bit of a cliche but it's true.

One MNer suggested that I contact \link{http://www.cancerbacup.org.uk/Home\CancerBacup}, and their website is excellent. Support and information is available there if you need it.

Sending hugs

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amynSaintnixmum · 08/12/2004 12:40

Thanks everyone for all the messages of supportSmile. Its being able to pour my heart out on mn that means I am able to be strong for my mum and dad so that they can lean on me instead of propping me up. Thanks also for all the positive stories - We have to keep beleiving it will be ok otherwise I dont think any of us would cope and xmas would be awful. Am seeing dd in nativity this afternoon - she is angel Gabriel and the star of the show apparentlyGrin. I am going with my sister so that should cheer us both upGrin

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PamiNativity · 08/12/2004 12:42

(((hugs))) from me - I know exactly how you are feeling, because my mum has also got cancer. I remember feeling like I'd been punched in the stomach when I first found out and being near to tears for ages afterwards.
Hope all goes well with the treatment.

Enjoy the nativity - it will take your mind of things, I'm sure.

katzguk · 08/12/2004 12:46

hi

I'm so sorry to here your news

i have just been through this for the last 2 years with my MIL.

I have to say if the treatment they are offering is radiotherapy then her prognosis is good. In worse cases they do chemo first then radio.

spacedonkey · 08/12/2004 13:04

Sad Really sorry to hear your news amynnixmum, big hugs x

MariNativityPlay · 08/12/2004 13:37

AmynSaintnixmum, really sorry to hear about this on top of the other stresses your family are under right now. Hoping for a swift start to you mum's treatment and a good outcome. {{{Hugs}}}

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amynSaintnixmum · 08/12/2004 16:30

Nativity was great and dd was indeed very goodGrin I was very proud and emotional - only sad thing was seeing all ds friends from reception coming in and going on stage as stars, angels and snowflakes when ds was not even allowed to watch let alone be in the playSad. It was good to see my sis and have a big cuddle too.

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DelGirlsRingAreYouListening · 08/12/2004 16:38

So sorry to hear your news Sad. If you need any help, with anything at all, then please CAT me, ok. Or Kitty has my email addy. (((((Hugs)))))

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amynSaintnixmum · 08/12/2004 16:41

Thanks DelGirl - kitty came over last night with chocs and wine to cheer me up. She is a great friendGrin

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DelGirlsRingAreYouListening · 08/12/2004 16:42

Glad to hear you're getting more than just virtual support Smile

snowdonim · 08/12/2004 17:01

I'm sorry to hear about your bad news and wish your mum all the best with her treatment.

NoMoomAtTheInn · 08/12/2004 17:04

So sorry to hear this amynnixmum. Please accept (((()))) and loads of good wishes for your mum and all your family xxx

tammylove · 08/12/2004 17:39

((((HUGS))))
I know how you feel Amy. My mom had cancer two and a half years ago. She had Hodgkins disease and also has an excellent survival rate.

We kept been told she will be ok and she was. She had an op and chemo and has been clear almost two years now.

You will feel very sad, wobbly and very low, but you will find your strength and in that your mom will get hers and beat it.

You can do this be strong. If you want to ask me anything please feel free or you can email me.

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