Stressed when small things go wrong

[AlisonWonderland]

Am a regular but have namechanged.

I am usually very cheery/happy nothing to complain about at home, happily married and lovely DS but have been struggling when small things go wrong. Like just now I tried to bake something for DH for Valentine's and it went wrong, and I got very frustrated and ended up crying my eyes out.

Similarly if something small goes wrong with DS's day, like him refusing a nap or being difficult to feed, it can really stress me out. I really try not to show it in front of DS but inside it can make me feel really down.

Is this just part and parcel of being a busy SAHM? Does anyone else feel the same? DH is v supportive but has a stressful job himself so if I try to offload on him it can just make him more stressed as he feels a bit helpless about it.

Yes I have days like this, its tiredness being on the go all day just catches up with you. If you felt like this every day though I would ask for help from a friend/family and try and rest. V impressed you tried to bake lol buy it from the shop and pretend you made it!!

How old is your ds

He is 12mo. I don't feel like this every day, just every now and then but it kind of takes me by surprise. Perhaps it is that before having DS I was in a tough job that I was pretty good at, and had a lot of confidence in what I was doing. Now I sometimes feel like I struggle to do what should be quite straightforward things, like getting my son fed, sleeping, etc!

Also I have just been made redundant while on mat leave, so even though I didn't want to return to work anyway, the choice was taken out of my hands. I wonder if that has something to do with it.

I was in a senior managers job before I went on mat leave and I cried because I over steamed the veg the other day but never cried at work. I love looking after my baby but have to work really hard at doing the house work stuff and my cat pooing on the floor really sent me over the edge yesterday. Being made redundant is a situation most people find upsetting so I'm sure it has affected you, but I'm sure you will find another good job when you decide to return to work.

Hey AW - I have lots of sympathy, have a 12 mth old too and feel v similar - see my thread "one year old from hell" to see how my day is going! Do you feel like this all the time atm or just on the odd day? Cos if it's all the time it might be worth having a chat with your HV/GP about it. x

Sorry, just seen above that you'd already said it's not every day!

p.s. also wanted to say I know what you mean about feeling confident, calm and professional in your previous job, but like a jibbering wreck looking after a LO!

I know just what you mean about getting stressed about the small things. I am having a very bad day today, not had a great deal of sleep this week so I think I'm just tired. I had done the food shopping and was putting it away and it kept falling out of the fridge, I was nearly in tears. Then my dd (21mths old) was messing about refusing to have a nap and I just ended up sobbing. She wasn't bothered in the least though. Oh well, maybe tomorrow will be better.

i think it comes with being a mom in general. even when it was just me and DS (not have a DD) the slightest thing wud set me off. not everyday, but like my fringe wudnt go the way i wanted it. i wud just break down etc. and there was one time when preg (so irrational behaviour is expected) and i wanted to do myself a french manicure. i did 9 nails perfectly but for an hour the last nail just wasnt happening. so i threw a strop, cried and took off all the varnish. funny when i think about it now. but at the time it felt like the world was ending. tiredness, looking after children, taking care of the family home, and trying to keep DH happy as well as the rest of the world - makes u find any little thing stressful. maybe it wud be good if u cud get a few hrs each week alone time. just go round the shops browsing. it will get u sorted for the next week ahead. or even part time job does wonders. i am keeping my job but doing 4hrs a week, just to give myself some space from being mom, housewife etc.