Can't do it anymore

[purpleme12]

I just can't do it anymore.
I'm so tired.
I'm so overwhelmed with dealing with my child who isn't even that bad compared to others that I don't have any mental energy to do the food shop or sort the house.
She has trouble regulating her emotions.
She'll show me disrespect cos she's always angry.
She says sorry but it keeps happening.
She tells me to shut up/says things she doesn't mean when she's angry. Directed at me of course.
I don't know if I should accept Early Help at this point.
She's lovely apart from this.
But I'm so tired. It took an hour to get her to bed cos when she's in this state of mind it doesn't switch off like that.
So tired of staying calm. The other way doesn't work. But consequences don't work either. Cos it's in that state of mind.
I know I need to do the food shopping tonight but I know I won't do it cos I'm so exhausted.
She's 9

Sometimes
I've no idea if I'm doing the right thing.
I tell her she's always angry, then I think I shouldn't tell her that is that the wrong thing to say I've no idea anymore

I am trying to get her to be responsible for her behaviour (because the problem is she cannot can herself down she needs me to physically do it)

Accept early help. Have you been offered this via the school? Do you know the root of the anger? Take any support that is available. Asking for support is not a weakness. Good luck

There does not appear to be a root of the anger.
The anger is always about little things
Like tonight when it was time to go to bed after the episode but she wanted to watch another episode and that's where it all came about.
It's just that anger is her default emotion

I don't want someone rooting about in my life asking questions

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In her head when she's had an attitude towards me I should come give her a cuddle. Because she had the attitude because she's angry and the cuddle calms her down, that's what works. But we need her to control her emotions. I cannot come give her a cuddle when she's shown disrespect.
Yet it doesn't work