Feeling as though I'm failing to be a good mum and partner

[Melh94]

I'm really struggling with feeling like I'm failing at being a good mum and partner. I feel so drained at the moment physically, emotionally and mentally. A bit of background I'm no contact with my mum at present due to her telling me that I wasn't wanted when I was 4 month pp and had major mental health issues. My aunt decided to go against rules we had r.e social media and pictures of my son, I threatened legal action to have the pictures removed and no am'no longer anything to her' and my nan (her mum) has took her side with everything and isn't talking to me. My partner is generally good, he cooks and cleans where he can, he does as much as he can to help. My 7 month old at them minute is fighting me in everything whether its sleep, feeds, nappy changes, getting dressed etc. Im fed up with constantly fight for or against something, I've been putting others first for so long that since prioritising me and my family, I feel like I've lost near enough everyone, I feel so so lonely and I don't know what to do, I don't know what the point is of this post but I just had to get it out, I just don't know what else to do anymore

Oh bless you. What an awful lot you have had to contend with. You are NOT failing. You are struggling.
Is your partner steeping up enough? It’s not helping. It should be as equal as possible re looking after a baby and house. You need to grab some time for just you.
How is your MH now? It sounds like you’re still quite low?

He cooks every night and at weekends he helps more, my mental health isn't great at the moment but I'm also contending with trying to get my underactive thyroid meds right, that causes low mood/depression too, I'm currently being ignored by all of my mum's side of the family too, due to being no contact, I literally only have my dad (used to have his mum but she's sided with my aunt), step mum and mother in law. My partners going through stuff aswell as his dad won't talk to him and has flatly refused to see our son. We both seem to have a toxic parent and a decent parent each. I'm fed up of parenting adults too, I was there for anyone and everyone before my son but they all dropped me the moment I started saying no

Keep saying no! Your boundaries are important. Are you on any meds or had CBT for the depression OP?

No I'm not,bits started to slip when my meds weren't doing what they meant to so I'm riding it out until we've got it right and go from there