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Husband's mental health...feeling hopeless

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Rosie1312 · 11/03/2023 19:04

My husband has been experiencing very serious mental health problems this past year, while I have been pregnant with and given birth to our first child. He has been suicidal, abusing alcohol, had one conviction for being drunk in control of a vehicle and now awaiting trial for dangerous driving (he had been drinking, fortunately not enough to be over the limit, but it was certainly a factor in the collision - he went into the back of a parked car, no-one hurt thank goodness but our car was a write-off).

I am now staying with my parents with our 12 week-old daughter, while he is staying with his parents. He is seeing a counsellor through Mind and is on a waiting list for NHS mental health services. He has been taking 100mg Sertraline for over 6 weeks now. None of this really seems to be helping though. Since I went to my parents he has just seemed quite numb. Often when I talk to him he mentions that he is still thinking about suicide/still thinks it is a more likely outcome than him recovering and us being able to be living together as a family again.

I'm feeling quite hopeless about the whole situation and I just wondered if anyone has been in a similar position or has any words of advice or reasons for optimism?

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Aquamarine1029 · 11/03/2023 19:09

Get yourself to a solicitor at your earliest opportunity and file for divorce. You can't fix him, and you absolutely cannot allow him to taint your child's life by having them grow up with an alcoholic parent.

ArianahX · 11/03/2023 20:02

I think his GP needs to be made aware of how suicidal he is to be honest.

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