I had a gastric sleeve and feel like I failed again.

[Wuggie]

I had a sleeve 2 years ago, come July.

I've lost 6 stone and am now 11st4.

I've put this in mental health as I struggle alot with a lot of different things from eating issues to anxiety to depression.

I had the procedure done privately with no therapy.

I stopped taking to the women I went with as I found the social pressure too great. They all had Instagram accounts and I felt like I was comparing myself to them too much.

Well I rejoined Instagram today for general viewing and it must have saved my account as all the ladies accounts came up.

They all look amazing. Like size 8/10 amazing and most of them have had tummy tucks and boob jobs.

I'm still a size 14 and have a massive overhang.

I stopped losing weight a year ago!!
I've tried to go to the gym and stuff but it's too stressful.

I obviously still have eating issues and eat the wrong things.

I just feel like even with this extreme measure I'm still the one that fucking fails :(

I just feel so annoyed with myself.

Even with 90% of my stomach gone I can't control myself or get into an exercise routine.

I've lost 6 stone with zero effort and now Ive spent a whole year unhappy with the last 20lbs and I can't just do it myself?!

But you've done amazingly. We all have different things going on. CompRison is the thief of joy and all that bollocks. NHS don't remove overhang from weightloss, it sounds like they've had much more surgery since. Which is pricey but of course it'll take even more weight off with it. You have identified you have issues and need to speak to someone. So that's where to start. I bet you look amazing and I also bet you do feel physically miles better than you did. ❤️

Oh my lovely, you have not failed, you have lost 6 stone, yes it was faster than conventional diet plans but there was a huge mental and physical load to bear to get there.
It is hard as we try to change and our life and health put up barriers making the journey longer.
Can you get help or talk therapy to discuss how you feel and see a way forward
Also would a nutritionist help with food and diet, as the weight came off your needs change so that may also help.
Please don't compare yourself to others the route you are on is the one you need to be on, learn to love who you are, accept who you are and then see the changes.
You have done so well the weight is gone, you health is improving because of this, and you have not put it back on. Please speak to someone and then move forward being your wonderful self💐

You've not failed at all! You've done amazingly well. Do t forget that the earlier weight loss comes off much easier and that the last part is so hard as it means you have to really cut down to lose that last % of your body weight.
It can't have been an easy road and hating yourself is no good at all!
6 stone!!! Fabulous!!!
I think you need a goal with a reward. It might help you? Make it short term and not about numbers, so sticking to my plan for a week = new nail polish/dress/sandals/a book whatever you enjoy.
Well done

Thanks for the kind words.

I know 6 stone is huge but they just look like the 'finished product now' and I still feel like a work in progress 2 years in

Hi, first time on here, but just looking for some advice I guess. I've been reading up about the endoscopic gastric sleeve procedure but need to gain 10lbs to qualify. Like most people I've struggled with my weight for past 20 years, I'm 44 now and fed up being so miserable and self conscious with my body. I struggle with low back pain and riddled with osteoarthritis especially in my knees which makes exercise difficult. Would people think I was mad gaining 10lbs to ultimately have this procedure? Not that I would tell anyone as would be so ashamed. Sorry for the rambling but don't really have anyone else I can ask. Any advice or opinions would be appreciated.

Hello there, @Tillylace !
I don't have any advice on this subject, but there are probably other people on Mumsnet who could give you good advice.
Try starting your own thread with your question, you might get more answers.
There is a Mumsnet board called Weight loss chat, try posting there

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/weight_loss_chat

or on

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/general_health

or if you feel it is a good fit for the mental health board (which is here).

Good luck! I wish you all the best!

Thank you SkaneTos

You’ve done incredibly well.

Don’t forget that what they put on instagram is curated and possibly filtered as well. They probably have moments of looking less than perfect and clothes/angles where they don’t look so great- it’s just those ones don’t make it onto instagram.